STOP Running From Pain

Today affirmed something I’ve known for a while yet failed to properly acknowledge in my daily life. Life is hard, and usually life kicks your ass, the difference between those who make something out of it and those who don’t are the ones who don’t run away from it. Running away has many connotations; you could escape into spending all your free time playing video games, to masturbating away all of your life essence to pornography, to eating tonnes of junk food – in my case every time life gets hard I visit an escort website and book a hooker for an hour. This paralysis, this inability to mentally cope with any kind of pain is a monumental problem within young people nowadays, and I write this in the midst of a real low day. Am I looking to inspire myself? Maybe, but that’s not a bad thing – as long as I learn how to cope with negative feelings and accept that they are a part of life without trying to mask them with an unhealthy dopamine hit, then I’ve succeeded for today. And that’s all you can do. Sit with the pain, embrace it and accept that pain is part of being a man. Work is hard, life is hard, real men just get on with it because there simply isn’t any other choice. And these are the type of men that women crave; strong, no-nonsense, resilient men who encompass what it means to be a man. Those men don’t shrink any time a problem arises and look to a negative vice to make them feel a lil better.

I’ve got a friend who inspires me; he’s my age, has a good job, is already on the property ladder and generally has his shit together. I’ve sat many times and assessed what’s got him to where he is compared to me, and the decisive factor, the only real difference between us, is he accepts life is tough as shit and he gets on with it without complaining or quitting. His previous job involved 3 hours of commuting per day, then cooked dinner, then studied for his qualification. It’s no surprise that women gravitate towards him because he puts life and his responsibilities before them. They sense it, I’ve seen how he’s perceived in their eyes and it’s all started to add up. The good thing is understanding life is half the battle, I simply need to grow up and get on with it.

 

Happiness and fulfillment coming from self-control is an interesting take which I'll definitely ponder over. I feel like self-control is the same as keeping your word to others. A man who cannot keep or stick to his word in any aspect of life is perceived as unreliable, weak and a liability to the external world. Therefore, it's the same thing if you cannot keep your word to yourself. Make a decision and stick to it because that's the promise you made.