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Stopping fantasies

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by TanglePie, Nov 14, 2017.

  1. TanglePie

    TanglePie Fapstronaut

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    This has probably been brought up before, but how do I stop fantasies?

    Are they wrong?
    Will they hinder my progress?

    Currently having them over my ex, we are very close still and very flirty.

    15 days without PMO and 36 days P free. Any help would be appreciated
     
  2. I don't think fantasies are very productive when it comes to your progress. I have fantasies from time to time, but when I feel them coming I just let them be and don't react to them. Don't let them get to prominent. Just don't fight them or suppress them, then they will come back stronger. Just observe them and let them move on. In time they will disappear. Hope I was any help!
     
  3. Ali alhamed

    Ali alhamed New Fapstronaut

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    Here you can stop fantasies and you can clean your brain..

    1.stop using Mobile screen tv screen or pc screen you can use your email and any anything official.

    2.stop looking at real womens figures see thier faces when you need and when you talk.

    3.whenever you will get any fantasies in your brain give your brain a answer hey i want a real sex with women ok and i will on my sex button when real women will come in front of me no matter when she will come and this is sex i want female i am male and when you give this answer to your brain he lose and will not try to cheat with you again..
     
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  4. TanglePie

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    That is sound advice. So accept them but let them pass over me. The last thing I want is them to be stronger.
     
  5. TanglePie

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    100% I have deleted all Social media and other than this site and texting and Spotify I rarely use my phone.

    I have also respected women a lot more by looking at them and bot their figures. I sometimes look away or up if I sense my eyes going where they shouldn't.

    I am going to stay away from intercourse though. I do want a real woman but I want to have rewired my brain before I do. Thank you
     
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  6. vxlccm

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    Welcome to NoFap, @Ali alhamed - glad you are here.

    I like his #3, @TanglePie and I've written about it some in my journal, which is /replacement/ of thought. I cannot, myself, so much control thoughts and tell my brain what to NOT think about when it's distracted by images or ideas.. but, I can kinda force things out by doing something else that requires focus or offers peace. So, I can replace what's on the "stage" of the mind with something else. Feeding the right wolf, and focusing on healthy things, has helped a lot in my recovery.
     
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  7. TanglePie

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    I am going to start meditating to get some inner peace. I have got a hobby to keep me active, busy at work but also need something to replace the times I am alone and away from everything.

    Feeding the right wolf. I love that
     
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  9. TanglePie

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    I have downloaded that picture. That is power, that is what I need. Thank you
     
  10. vxlccm

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    Funny, @TanglePie it seemed like it wasn't working and I was about to delete the post. Odd. Glad you got a chance to see some ancient wisdom brought into the modern times :p
     
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  11. TanglePie

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    Inspirational quotes don't grab my attention. But that ancient wisdom, wow. Honestly my mind is blown. It speaks to me. Its hard to explain
     
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  12. vxlccm

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    @TanglePie there's quite a few people around here that inspire me, including reminding us all of those kinds of ageless parables. Stick around and you'll meet a bunch of them. Some people are writers, some cheerleaders, some posters of ultra-high-impact imagery, some uber-motivational quotes, and some bearers of inspiration that you will connect with, of that I am certain :)
     
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  13. That picture resonates with me as well. What you give yourself to is what you become. Of course it caught my attention as wolves are my favorite animal :)
     
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  14. vxlccm

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    @Nomar I believe there is a bit of wolf DNA in the Y chromosome, no? :)

    Wolves don't fantasize. They lope for tens of miles every day and hunt down their goals across any terrain, amid any difficulty, until the prize is won. Awaken the beast within!
     
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  15. @vxlccm Amazing picture. I already knew the anecdote. But never see the picture.

    When reading this thread I must think about this:
    Our brain is an amazing body part, just doing what it is created for: Process input, storage, creating output, storing the results of that output etc.

    If you have fantasies, the only reason is that you have put in some information. To stay in the context: you feed the black wolf.
    If you want other pictures on your imagination, just give yourself other input, feed the white wolf.

    The imagination is a wonderful thing to change your focus. It's an important part of my life, I m using it continuously.
    However, whenever I watch porn, this imagination is strongly disturbed.

    What comes in, is what comes out.
     
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  16. Third_Eye

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    Well it’s normal to have fantasies, because it seems like your brain is rewiring itself from PMO.

    Also, it sounds like you miss your ex
     
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