Straight Dope: Is it possible to stop fantasizing?

This is happening because you started fapping. Did you want to start fapping once in a while after a long reboot? This is the reason why I would never start occasional fapping after a successful reboot.

Try meditation on calm music or guided meditation few min before you go to bed.

 

Heroin? If your replacing an addiction with another addiction, you arent making progress. Even if you say you arent addicted you are REPLACING p with it, so not much difference. Im being real with you man. Find a better substitute and get off that shit dude please. Try tiring yourself out during the day you will be too tired to fantasize

 

Ight dude i cant tell you what to do. Just find something to replace mo. Or p or whatever. For me its rapping

 

Exactly. If you WAIT for something to happen and just WAIT for a change. It wont happen. Get busy brotha

 

I would recommend the following:

• Fast 2 - 3 days a week, from experience it will take away the need to relapse
• I subscribe to Tai Lopez's email list and he mentioned to try sitting in a chair and read 7 minutes daily without getting distracted, it will rewire your brain. I have anger issue and since taking this advice I noticed that I been less angry while reading and been a little more focused.

Also, I don't want to sound hypocritical, I relapsed this morning. But from what I typed above, I hope the advice help.

 

Meditation and mindfulness practice. I'm gonna be preaching this shit until I die. It helped me tremendously with erotic toughs and not acting on urges. The thing is you still think erotic thoughts; sometimes they come up, but you don't engage in them. You just observe them and then move your attention to something else, like breath for example. Same goes for your little friend screaming for attention; you just be there with that feeling of arousal, but just observe it and not engage in it. The idea is instead of running from things like those get real close to them and confront them. It trains your self control and discipline.

There is nothing wrong with erotic thoughts. We are sexual creatures by nature so it's normal to think about that stuff. It's when we indulge in them when it becomes a problem. Same goes for being aroused. It's just energy flowing through your veins. Discharging it will give you the release. And that will be strong desire if you tendency is to run from that feeling. Because it is tension, it is uncomfortable, it's purpose is to make you do things (like seek a mate). But if you get yourself out of that mindset and instead of running from those things get real close to them instead, by observing them and being with those feelings, eventually you become comfortable with feeling that way. Kinda like edging. At first you can't hold back cos you wanna finish so bad, but eventually you get comfortable with the feeling and you can edge for longer.

If you want to keep running from them then I guess it's another tactic. I did use to use a rubber band around my wrist to pain myself with when erotic thought came up. It's supposed to condition your mind to associate erotic thoughts with pain instead of pleasure so it would not naturally keep doing it. Also, thoughts coming up themselves is one thing. Deliberately choosing to create them is other thing. You just have to make a decision to not do that. Kinda like you made a decision to not watch porn. If they come up by their own then that's fine, just use the rubber band and change focus once you catch them. But make a decision to not intentionally create them.