Strong Foot Fetish

The problem with fetishes in general is that you're assigning a sexual value to something which is completely non sexual in its very nature.

Feet are literally only "down-hands" which are made for walking. We humans are apes from the hominoid family, other apes from that family have feet which look more or less like their hands, our feet look a bit different but technically are still just "down-hands" you could say (fun fact: there was a guy who had his big toe transplanted to where his thumb was)

So when thinking of feet, to internalize this point of view, it would be helpful to call toes "fingers", instead of sole "palm" etc. Because feet are just hands which adapted to walking on two legs.

Also, you do realize that under the skin, feet don't look arousing at all? All that blood, muscles, bones, fat.

So you need to realize that feet are nothing special. I mean, feet of other animals are not special either?

Last but not least, where's the sexual element in feet? There is nothing sexual in feet intrinsically (that's the key word, "intrinsically").

PS: I am (was?) a strong foot fetishist too, and after trying to fight it for more than a decade, this is the most plausible way of breaking free. Don't try to feel repulsed by feet, you should feel bored by feet as it's nothing special.

 

there are some videos on youtube regarding getting rid of an unwanted fetish.
for me, foot fetish can feel like an obsession / addiction - the pay off is the intense euphoria and arousal that comes from something that's more accessible - people can post barefoot pictures and fetish pictures even on social media without getting flagged. It's almost a running gag allover the internet where men and women joke about "paying bills for selling foot pics" - there is a larger awareness about this fetish and lots of people who will indulge in it for money or because it's amusing to them.

For some people foot fetish IS sex - but then it can feel limited for those partners not into it - even the partners who indulge in may not consider it sex unless it's a power thing such as a Dominant or Dominaxtrix being "worshipped" (hence a lot of straight dom's with gay male foot subs for example).

perhaps it's worth thinking about if power/control is part of your fetish. some people secretly love the idea of being "helplessly" turned on by their fetish - as part of being sexually submissive. So part of their "troublesome attractions" is feeling helplessly aroused by their fetish as part of their erotic template - do you think this can be the case with you - or is this not at all applicable?

overall - for the people who want to get rid of their fetish the idea is that it's a strong sexual habit and habits can change - and the remedy is to start thinking of 10 other things or so to do that are good for you that can replace the default need to turn to the fetish. people with strong fetishes rely on them and give the fetish power because it creates a good feeling - and has become habituated. So essentially the less power we give fetish - by maybe indulging in it 1 a month or so vs multiple times every day WHILE SIMULTANEOUOSLY replacing that energy by putting it into other things (career, exercise, art, spirituality, travel etc) - the fetish can lose it's grip - even if it doesn't go away completely

i guess my question is - what is the fetish giving you? you must be getting something out of it - even if it serves as a distraction or a way to avoid real intimacy - for some it's just pure safe pleasure an for other's it's a real problem

 

This is a very common fetish, it seems. I remember seeing my 2nd grade teacher’s feet for the first time and feeling mildly aroused by this - probably because she had everything else covered up and I had never seen an authority figure, except my mom and relatives I guess, with uncovered feet. Even seeing strangers on the street probably didn’t provoke me as much as seeing my teacher’s feet at a young age. I think a lot of it has to do with what’s revealed vs. what’s hidden. Using what’s revealed as a proxy for what’s hidden. I generally find most feet aesthetically-pleasing in general though, even if I’m not really sexually attracted to the person at all. Sometimes hands can be attractive, too, for some reason. The next step is extrapolating this attractiveness to the person overall.

 

interesting advice. I’ve heard similar things re: sexual attraction/fapping, i.e., many women in porn (and women in general) look much different without makeup, etc., so imagine what they really look like and habits can break. Or imagine the sexual object in their worst possible light. There is definitely something to this.

 

Many people say: analyze your sexual behaviour. I say: don't do it. Do NoFap and don't try to think why you got the fetish or what does it say about you - most of it is BS and just feeding your desire for the fetish. You have to leave it alone for a good while.

 

You're right, analyzing it doesn't stop the problem here. Did it a thousand times.

 

It is indeed a tough one, there are these methods I try to stop it which seem helpful.. But need a lot of practice:

1- Refrain: Dont stare at them and instead look at their faces.
2- Remember its nature: as other comments said, they are not sexual objects, the toes are fingers and the soles are palms, their purpose is to walk only.
3- writing these points in affirmation phase and reading them constantly.

 

You mentioned that your foot fetish is not porn induced and that's a big difference. I also have a foot fetish(since i was born) and i'm not really positive about the possibility of getting rid of a fetish which isn't porn induced.

I really think you should own your foot fetish like a man and learn to accept yourself. It's honestly not that bad and probably the most popular fetish out there. And seriously It's fantastic when you act on it with the right partner. I do agree that this fetish isn't healthy if it's porn induced(Like any other porn induced fetishes).

Although I would say, That This fetish is pretty dangerous *When watching porn* because it easily leads to escalating to hardcore fetishes and porn categories such as femdom,sissy, trans etc...

Avoid porn and masturbation at all cost in order to: Reset your dopamine levels, To get your libido level and attraction to women back, And to rewire your brain and yourself to your true nature and to a healthy sexuality.

 

My foot fetish was also not porn induced, had it way before I started watching P, and let me tell you that it's possible to get rid of it

If you tell yourself over and over again that feet are just hands which evolved due to walking straight, you will start seeing feet as nothing special at all. You need to remove the brainwashing that feet have something intrinsically sexual in it. This is just facts, feet are just hands made for walking. Also, remember that there is no difference between male and female feet, they only differ in size!

 

A foot fetish isn't a big deal - there are plenty of partners out there who will be fine with it and it sounds like you need to find one.

I have a major foot fetish but it isn't a big deal because my wife doesn't mind (in fact she made it even stronger).

The fact that I have feet 'available' means they're not such a big deal when I'm out in public, even if I do like to check them out.

I never felt like I shouldn't have a foot fetish or could get rid of it, like others, there was always something there long before I saw porn.