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Struggling.

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Jan 24, 2020.

  1. I'm posting this thread today because I am struggling with porn right now and still continuing. I seem to be watching Porn/Masturbating out of boredom with my life lately and I feel like something is off with my solar plexus lately as in my control and discipline. It's been difficult because I am catching "Afternoon Blues.." I guess you could call it? When I get off of work and I'm at home.

    Lately I was hospitalized so I've had a full week and a half for recovery.I posted on social media about my hospitalization and none of my child hood friends commented at all on it the four days I was in. I'm not sure exactly where my life is going now and how I'm going to bounce back from it. I'm loosing some faith in finding a wife and getting settled down with someone since I am almost 30 years old.

    A Saiyan is struggling to keep himself up.
    I would love to travel right now but I have a fear of flying and anxiety.
    I have a fear of moving up in my job which it will require me to work extensive hours and making me feel like I'm wasting my life working away.

    I'm not sure if all these fears are related to my porn/masturbation use.. But right now life seems weighted..
     
  2. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut

    I'm sorry to hear about all these issues. I would say the first thing you should do is get some accountability for yourself. Get to an SA meeting (Find one at SA.org) then get a sponsor there, and an AP or several, and then look into getting in to talk with a CSAT.
     
  3. It really all comes down to how you perceive things , if you think your in an never ending sprint to achieve certain things your never going to be happy .

    Take a step back and look at your circumstances , and what are you prepared to add to your life one step at a time ,

    I'm regards to work are you happy enough in , work are you earning more importantly saving , do you want more out of it . Then focus on wether your prepared to stretch yourself out a bit more for it and focus on it . You are only 30 , you have many years ahead to achieve what you want . Many people are single in there 30s many In there 40s 50s some never marry some are divorced and single .

    You have to look at life and the way you live , and what makes you happy and what doesn't .

    You have years to experience more in life it doesn't have to be a race .

    If your particularly pissed about things In life , look into the philosophy of stoicism , it can be very helpful ,

    Everyone is the same we all work , the best thing is to make it count , find a way to get out of the rat race as soon as possible ,

    The best thing for you myt be to try and find a girlfriend , forget about wife at the minute. im 29 myself plenty of people our age are single and not married.
     
  4. lolos

    lolos Fapstronaut

    You have an issue that goes deeper than any of the problems you have mentioned, they are merely symptoms.

    You likely have some kind of depression/anxiety and a lot of self limiting beliefs about yourself and the world. I would recommend you go to a psychologist as well as start meditating and trying to become aware of your beliefs.
     


  5. Thank you and I appreciate you for your motivation and kind words. I am actually 28 right now but I will be 30 in two years. I feel just as if half of me has given up right now and that I'm just struggling to get myself back in order.

    By the way that's how I feel society is exactly right now, just one big Rate race. We are just the same as rats are to humans. We are being tested on, used, and put on medications to boost our moods or stamina.. I do have a girlfriend right now but it hasn't been the best this past month and I feel like I'm struggling to keep it going for right now. I know I used struggling twice, but it feels like I am a little bit...


    I recently had a relationship before my current which struck me hard. This woman opened up to me about the end of the summer and confessed her love to me and wanted to get back together. I accepted it because she said she was coming to see me around march. Unfortunately she rejected that month because the plane ticket prices were to high and I ended the relationship with her. About two weeks after she dated another american guy and I've never felt so used and just completely betrayed almost. This lead me to more masturbation and I've been doing cams online because I don't have sex at all in real life. Yes sorry man I've got allot of drama, but its life..
     

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