BruceBeforeBatman
Fapstronaut
If you’re a nofap sage and have dealt with a serious, daily addiction to PMO and have somehow gotten out of the cycle, please help me. I need your advice. I am very desperate to get on with my life. I’ll do whatever it takes, but I’ve tried about everything there is to try with no effect.
I’m in my early 20s in college and I am addicted to PMO. In my teens I didn’t fap but looked at images till about 19 or 20, then have been a full PMO addict for 3-4 years at this point. It’s like I’m making up for lost time now I guess. In the last 4 years I’ve tried to go a week without PMO but could never make it past 3 days. By now my dopamine receptors have adapted so I’m doing it every day, sometimes multiple times per day.
I want to stop but can’t. It’s giving me panic attacks, social anxiety, depression, brain fog, fatigue, and insomnia. I am very motivated to stop but am alone in the process with no help and few friends, and my life lacks structure and routine due to being in college and working and stress. I’ve watched YouTube videos and read forums and discussions on nofap for years but can’t seem to kick this addiction. I’m very afraid I’ll never get out of this and that I’ll waste my life. I’ve already wasted 4 years that I’ll never be able to get back. I can’t keep going like this.
No girlfriend. I have brain fog all the time, too, which makes starting exercise and eating healthy very difficult. As previously mentioned, I’ve started having panic attacks from jacking up my system with adrenaline and cortisol so much. Never had panic attacks before PMO. Anxiety, yes, but not to that extreme. Exercise helps in the moment but you can’t exercise 24/7. Plus I have insomnia too so if I lie down to go to sleep thats hours I’m sitting there practically waiting for temptation to strike. Even if I put my phone in another room I’ll just go get it to PMO.
I am not sure recovery is truly possible for me. I’ve heard all the tips and tricks by now and to me almost all of them are just gimmicks to get you to feel better. But they don’t always work and they take a serious investment. I’ve tried therapy with several different kinds of therapists with zero success. Haven’t tried an addiction specialist yet but would like to if my insurance would accept it.
The things that might work for me are self confidence (mine is extremely low), structure for each day (I am very disorganized), and healthy relationships (I am very isolated right now due to being busy all the time working on class projects). Also exercise makes me feel better. I just haven’t been able to figure out all the pieces and have a hard time starting new habits. It’s easy to think about these things, but I get lost when it comes to putting them into practice. My brain goes into auto-pilot mode and just does what it has always done.
Anyway, please ask questions, give advice, and offer suggestions, but I’m really looking for a few nofap veterans who have dealt with this stuff seriously, not just like an every now and then struggle. I need to hear from someone who has been where I am - struggling EVERY DAY - and someone who has truly gotten to a better place permanently.
I want a permanent, straightforward solution that will work. I’m tired of gimmicks. I need something to be excited enough about that I NEED to stop this, instead of just wanting to. I want a better life. I want rat park, not just a rat cage. I’m tired of being the person I’ve been. PLEASE help if you are able. Thank you.
I’m in my early 20s in college and I am addicted to PMO. In my teens I didn’t fap but looked at images till about 19 or 20, then have been a full PMO addict for 3-4 years at this point. It’s like I’m making up for lost time now I guess. In the last 4 years I’ve tried to go a week without PMO but could never make it past 3 days. By now my dopamine receptors have adapted so I’m doing it every day, sometimes multiple times per day.
I want to stop but can’t. It’s giving me panic attacks, social anxiety, depression, brain fog, fatigue, and insomnia. I am very motivated to stop but am alone in the process with no help and few friends, and my life lacks structure and routine due to being in college and working and stress. I’ve watched YouTube videos and read forums and discussions on nofap for years but can’t seem to kick this addiction. I’m very afraid I’ll never get out of this and that I’ll waste my life. I’ve already wasted 4 years that I’ll never be able to get back. I can’t keep going like this.
No girlfriend. I have brain fog all the time, too, which makes starting exercise and eating healthy very difficult. As previously mentioned, I’ve started having panic attacks from jacking up my system with adrenaline and cortisol so much. Never had panic attacks before PMO. Anxiety, yes, but not to that extreme. Exercise helps in the moment but you can’t exercise 24/7. Plus I have insomnia too so if I lie down to go to sleep thats hours I’m sitting there practically waiting for temptation to strike. Even if I put my phone in another room I’ll just go get it to PMO.
I am not sure recovery is truly possible for me. I’ve heard all the tips and tricks by now and to me almost all of them are just gimmicks to get you to feel better. But they don’t always work and they take a serious investment. I’ve tried therapy with several different kinds of therapists with zero success. Haven’t tried an addiction specialist yet but would like to if my insurance would accept it.
The things that might work for me are self confidence (mine is extremely low), structure for each day (I am very disorganized), and healthy relationships (I am very isolated right now due to being busy all the time working on class projects). Also exercise makes me feel better. I just haven’t been able to figure out all the pieces and have a hard time starting new habits. It’s easy to think about these things, but I get lost when it comes to putting them into practice. My brain goes into auto-pilot mode and just does what it has always done.
Anyway, please ask questions, give advice, and offer suggestions, but I’m really looking for a few nofap veterans who have dealt with this stuff seriously, not just like an every now and then struggle. I need to hear from someone who has been where I am - struggling EVERY DAY - and someone who has truly gotten to a better place permanently.
I want a permanent, straightforward solution that will work. I’m tired of gimmicks. I need something to be excited enough about that I NEED to stop this, instead of just wanting to. I want a better life. I want rat park, not just a rat cage. I’m tired of being the person I’ve been. PLEASE help if you are able. Thank you.