Stuck in a loop of 5-7 successful days and than a relapse

I would say you're doing pretty great. Most guys can't spend a week without fapping. I can only hold it for about 4 days before it becomes unbearable. But that streak of 69 days is quite amazing, I'm sure you can replicate it, and even surpass it. Don't despair.

 

It's like a mental barrier. You don't know you're capable of more unless you try.

 

sounds like chaser effect to me.
I think hard mode (for a certain period of time) is easier than normal mode.

 

Hey man!
A few things I can suggest-
1. Just try to get beyond the limit of 14 days. Most people say that the urges and flashbacks reduce/disappear after this much period of time, so if you are on day 5/6/7- just focus on taking each day at a time and going past day 14. Keep yourself occupied with other activities, and you must not relapse during this point of time.
After day 14- its just cruise control from what i have noticed and its days go past smoothly.
Hopefully after you clear these many number of days, you an focus on higher numbers- such as 30/60/90. Whenever I try to aim for these numbers, i feel overwhelmed and end up relapsing, so I'm just going step by step.
2. Relapsing 2-3 times instead of once is called Chaser effect. There are various ways to prevent this, I'm sure you will find how-to when you search for it on this website and on Reddit as well.

I have faced this same problem for a long time, overcome it, and fallen back into the same pattern a few times. Even I feel sad and desperate. But we will overcome this, I am sure of that.
Stay alert and stay strong!
Hope this helps.

 

Wise words @Change of Heart

 

Please read about the chaser effect here: https://nofap.com/rebooting/

 

I am also stuck in some kind of same loop at the moment. My best streak was 45 to 50 days and I have started nofap over a year ago. It's been more than a month or so since I have somewhat a decent streak and I ended my semester at that time. For last couple I have ups and downs with either edging and Honestly I am finding it very hard to have some concrete motivation to keep going and my will power isn't help me now. I guess having a accountability partner(who had experienced all of this) will help you and me as well. You can also try coundelling. But honestly the current situation is always holding me to open myself up because my family has loss my trust to do be accomplish stuff therefore I try to avoid beating myself by telling them more about my addiction. I don't want them to be more upset and create more instability in my family by telling them right now and take counselling.

 

Yeah the same case happening I am struggling with myself. The best thing to do is that try to be self awareness of what you are trying to do everyday stuff and try to be more present about the current situation that you are facing. Don't get carried away and try staying off internet as much as possible.

 

Staying off the internet definitely helps. I suggest stay away from instagram, and other social media, TV, anything that represent females in a sexualised manner. Even movies, TV series and such.
Its all in the mind my friend. Aim for mental celibacy. I would suggest not logging into nofap frequently after the first few days too. If you keep coming back over here, your thoughts will be filled with this stuff continuously. Find something to get busy with, and go after it!