Stuck on the first week of NoFap since last year

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by FapstronautCumsmonaut, Apr 22, 2018.

Was it easy to get passed the first week?

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  1. FapstronautCumsmonaut

    FapstronautCumsmonaut Fapstronaut

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    Ive been stuck on the first week of my nofap since last year July, the closest to a week was about five days then i gave in. Ive been trying so much to get past week one but i guess am not trying hard enough, ive tried all manners of precaution but havent been able to fulfill my goal.
    Before nofap i used to pmo ALOT! i had even made a make shift fleshlight during this time i was rarely interacting with real people, sometimes i would hide from my own friends till it got so serious that me and my friends went a complete year without seeing and contacting each cause whenever they would call i wouldnt answer dont know though.
    I dont know i got here but i really wanna get back to me without porn, cause it has destroyed my as a person my soul, my heart feels different these i cant even comprehend some stuff in my life. I would really appreciate any know how or advice of anyone with such an experience or just anything at all
     
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  2. freshstart111

    freshstart111 Fapstronaut

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    Hi

    I'm in a similar place to you. I'm struggling to even get over 2 or 3 days this last month. Before that i had come off a 68 day run which i never imagined was attainable for me. i think the first 3 weeks are the real battle (for me anyway) then it gets somewhat easier from then in. I will say at the same time you can never really let your guard down. (Its so easy to fall back into old habits) i felt towards the end of my run i wasn't craving p and m anymore but when the streak ended it didn't take long to be back in over my head!

    I'd say while working on this its best to get out there and enjoy life (take walks, go to concerts or whatever it is you enjoy) Its had me down at points, I've had tickets to gigs i skipped out on because my mood was low but NoFap for me is about improving yourself all round from eating better to getting more exercise. replace bad habits with good one!

    In the early stages i'd say take it a day at a time. On my last run i recorded a video message at the end of each week in which i'd say how the week had gone for me. I found myself really looking forward to being able to make the next one (Would always start with "Here i am at week 3 and so on) I could really see the growing confidence/ better complexion in me with each passing week.

    Anyway i'm sure you have it in you to kick this habit for good, Hope to see you get over a week and then on and on from there
     
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  3. Matt T

    Matt T Fapstronaut

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    If all we do is fight the action (Or the act) of viewing porn and masturbating, then we will forever be in an uphill struggle. We are battling a piece of ourselves that is armed with the knowledge of WHY we find porn appealing. We must disarm that piece in order to give our true selves (the part that brought us to NoFap) a chance to take over.

    My part that was "protecting me" with PM was saying "You should not have to worry about rejection. You deserve the pure mental and physical pleasure of getting off with a woman that enjoys the same stuff as you. Don't worry about that guilt. I'll keep that away while you have some real fun and pleasure".

    Afterward, a part of me would fight the guilt and feel good about every hour/day it won. But! That part would get tired, lose, and the part protecting me with PM would win another battle.

    I have learned to actually say "thank you" to the part of me that is trying to make me feel wanted, desirable, and worthy. Then I could face the parts that felt unworthy, undesirable, and unwanted and ask them "why do you feel that way?"

    I found that each of those parts had roots back in my earlier life, rooted in specific incidents or misinterpreted feedback throughout my life.

    I am now digging at these "protective parts" one at a time and it's making it easier to get through each day with less drive to PM for feeling better.

    I am fighting many battles and disarming my "enemies" so I can win the war.
     
  4. Vedas_fr

    Vedas_fr Fapstronaut

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    How old are you?
    Are you letting your mind fantasize? Are you observing women on the street? This is the kind of thing that could block you
     
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  5. Dagger323

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    I'm in a similar situation man. I went 48 days hard mode last month and about a week and a half ago I relapsed and since then I've been relapsing every single day. I lost all self control. I'm determined to get back on track and beat my record but the chaser effect really has had its hooks into me. Just keep your faith brother, we will get through this if we stay the path.
     
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  6. FapstronautCumsmonaut

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    Thanks for the insight @freshstart111 i think rather than try to go for a week, i will try to do a day-to-day goal, i think thats way easier than the other methods. Does this means i am deeply in porn that it is hard to go without pmo for a week? I do have a journa where i write in it from time to time (not daily) but i will give a try you method on recording videos during this period.
    Sorry about ending your streak i feel you, ending your streak way before its deadline can be a real kick in the balls. Hope you will be able to get your stuff together and conquer it like a gent.
     
  7. FapstronautCumsmonaut

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    @Matt T that is different way to look at it, very eye opening by the way, i read your comment and went slept on it and i may have had some incidents rooted from my childhood and the times i would go astray and indulge in pmo are some how connected to each other.
    Plus i am just putting out there but i think my drug use has also added to its worsening, i smoke weed (not a fan of other drugs) i remember when i started i used to do it JUST a recreational drug, at the moment the situation is different in the sense that i use it to escape my "lows" and porn guilt and everything else, i am kinda dependant on it now cause i can barely go a full week without smoking. I have wasted a big amount of money on it to the point i can get my shit straight.
    I will try to stop fighting it rather than that i will embrace it, thanks and wish you all the best.
     
  8. FapstronautCumsmonaut

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    Am 20, God knows the sick and filthy fantasies i have had in this mind of mine, things that i am very sure i am not capable of and the worst part about it all is i can hardly overcome my fantasies when they happen.
    I stare at females on the street ALOT! I also noticed that habit cause at times i would stare at women with sexual intentions in my mind and would end up getting bad stares back sometimes they would even kiss their teeth in disgust. When i noticed this habit i have been looking into ways to stop it, like these days i dont stare at females bodies, i only focus on looking into their eyes rather than their breasts and ass. With all this said can this be a factor that dragging me down?
    Thanks for the insights btw.
     
  9. FapstronautCumsmonaut

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    If there is one thing that i despise about pmo is the chaser effect cause once you start it can be REALLY hard at times to stop, it is one of the things that has made me be stuck at week one for this long time and come to think of it the chaser effect applies in other areas of life apart from pmo.
     
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  10. samismsm

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    Hi buddy,
    It's really hard to get over the addiction. I think the most important thing is not to give up. Give it always one more try!!
    I'm in a similar situation. only one time I could succeed for 42 days. That was a long time ago. Unfortunately I relapsed and still stuck in the relapse. I could do it for 10 days. But yesterday was unsuccessful. but now I'm trying again.
    Thanks for sharing your experience!
     
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  11. Vedas_fr

    Vedas_fr Fapstronaut

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    Okay so if you really want to change you will have to let go 9f sexual thoughts.if you stop thinking about sex and sick fantasies it will be very easy for you to nofap for weeks and months.
     

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