Substitute: going to prostitutes

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by atak, Jan 18, 2017.

  1. atak

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    I think I already mentioned this earlier. In the last year I taught myself a new addiction which you can already guess what it is by the thread title. With last year I mean the end of 2015 to the end of 2016. This was a very dark period of mine. I visited a lot of prostitutes.

    It is true that I decreased my porn consumption but what I essentially did is replace one bad habit for the other. After every visit I told myself this would be the last time and I fell into the trap of going almost every 2-3 weeks. I visited over 60 prostitutes. All of them looked like models and somewhere better than the other but I don't want to go anymore. I want to go on monk mode. Now it is over 3 weeks that I visited the brothel and it is itching again. It is literally damn if you do damn if you don't. If I go I feel horrible afterwards and if I don't go my whole days I feel consumed by the temptation to go. I wanted to write this thread because I feel like that at the moment.

    Tonight I have free time, a car, the money (it is not even expensive here) so nothing is stopping me. I feel like I can relapse today if I don't get help. I know why I shouldn't go but my inner voice who says I should go sounds louder than the inner voice who says that I should stay at home this night or go to them gym tonight. In my journal you can already read how difficult of a time I'm having. It is now 7 days on hardcore mode. I don't want to make the wrong decision tonight.
     
  2. Shin Iu

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  3. atak

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  4. Shin Iu

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    LOL, did condom talks to you: don't worry, I won't break myself :p
     
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  5. atak

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    Depends on which condoms you use. Some are literally unbreakable unless you have a steal dick.
     
  6. Themadfapper

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    You made of money? How can you afford that? Unless it's crackhoes prostitutes are pretty expensive in western nations, real expensive if you go to a brothel
     
  7. atak

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    It isn't that expensive here. 30 euro for 20 minutes with model type girls.
     
  8. newstart002

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    Sexual addiction finds various ways to act out. Using prostitutes is a bad path as I've been there myself and know it's seductive power.
    That's what it's about; power and control but it's actually leading us further into dependency and addiction.
     
  9. rorh18

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    I'm the exactly the same here, I did stop PMOin since the Summer but that's because, like you, it got subsistuted with something else, even worse.

    At first I probably visited prostitues once a month or every 2 months, then recently several times in 1 week. I visited one a few days ago and made an appointment to go see her again. For some reason I decided to watch porn in anticipation and ended up PMOin when I should've been asleep 2 hours ago.

    Now I feel so ashamed and guility for both habits. Reflecting back, all the money I spent, couldve gone on holiday, even multiple holidays. It's not worth it. Think of something you can do with the money you'd save short term and long term.
     
  10. SpiritualWarrior

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    Yes, I could tell a story about that... Had been addicted to prostitute sex for about four years. Lack of money does not prevent an addict from a hooker visit. From my experience, a "real" sex addiction compared to a porn addiction is even more tempting. One can choose the hooker that has all his preferred "attributes" within minutes and really act out his phantasies he would otherwise just passively watch on the screen. And the women there usually enjoy it. IMO that makes it so dangerous. The recall of this experience is much more vivid and harder to resist when the urges hit you.

    Many withdrawal symptoms of sex addiction (with prostitutes) resemble porn addiction withdrawal. There are some subtle differences which I would like to mention. A PMO binge causes a greater hangover and drains a little more physical energy than after sex with a hooker. However, sex addiction makes one even more shy and socially isolated. The feeling of guilt lasts many weeks after a hooker visit and it is indescribable.

    When I am about to relapse and I know I cannot stop myself any longer I recently even choose porn over prostitute, since it is IMO the less stronger addiction. I hope I provided a warning for someone considering to visit a hooker for the first time.
     
  11. Shin Iu

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    One thought goes wrong: people ended up in jail-they said that they were drunk. They said that they were under 18 and immature. They said that their friends tempted them to do these. They said that they were from an broken family. They said that they got hurt first before their un-thought behaviours. They said that they were just lack of preparation. They could say anything, but in the jail
     
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  12. Tested

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    I feel your pain, sex addiction is a great unrelenting beast constantly looking to score, for a fix. What we all need is intimacy with a woman but even when we have that we still act out. I've been through strip clubs, prostitutes, endless P. It is the case that one sip for us of the above is too much, one ocean full not enough. If you keep on the addiction path you are conditioning your brain to endless rewards that cause you social isolation, anxiety, depression. 60 prostitutes in a year, hmmm, you keep going that is 600 in ten years. Is that what you want? Zero chance of any self respect? Or a life of freedom, a new found respect for yourself, your ability to have self control. In time this new you will attract a female who wants to sleep with you without any money changing hands...
     
  13. Adria

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    Could you name some brands? I've already broken 2 this year...
     
  14. BetaToAlpha

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    Where's that? I seriously think that's my only chance of ever being intimate with someone so I really want to know.
     
  15. Adria

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    And you call youself "BetaToAlpha"...
     
  16. BetaToAlpha

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    Uh, realistically that's my only option. I'm almost 29, been single since 12. No way am I waiting to become a wizz. This is the last train before becoming one of those guys that are virgins in their 30s. Of course someone that has had sexual and intimate experiences cannot relate at all. :p

    Intimacy is a need for every adult, like air, food and water. If you don't get it your soul and mind suffers. I'm either going to die by suicide, commit to the crazy house to get treated with medication rendering me a vegetable or wither away from the stress lack of intimacy causes in me. NoFap helps me very much, but it gets me nowehere with women. I cannot just let go of the believe that making the first step is actually sexual harrasment towards them, so I don't see myself getting far. Let's be realistic here.

    I'm not gonna do it just for the sex btw, I may not even cum or penetrte her. Even lying down with her and fondling and cuddling her would be enough for me. I'd love hugging her and feeling like her protector. I'm utterly romantic and I bet I'd be one of their best clients. Like every adult my age I have need for intimacy. And I'm saying this today, on my always limp/flatline day when I feel like meh/almost asexual. It's either this or I become a wizard, a virgin 30 y/o loser and drown myself with alcohol, drugs, whatever to make me forget I'm a loser. I get so angry by the repressed/inaccurately channeled sexual/love energy that it turns to anger that might cause diseases like diabetes, heart attack or stroke. I don't want to go to the adrenal burnout/high BP/fear of stroke hell I was 4 years ago.

    I value women that much that I met with some bi guys who wanted to give it all to me as I was that desperate for intimacy but I didn't want to make women feel like objectified. Of course I felt terrible, men do not attract me at all. They don't have that feminine energy that makes you want to protect them and cuddle with them. I literally felt nothing towards them, so nothing happened. That's what lack of affection does to you - it makes you do crazy things. So visiting a female prostitute is very tame compatred to what I did. And at least it's more natural. I hated the vibes gay/bi guys give off, and they were even mad that I was standing there feeling nothing like I owe them love or affection. Sorry but I cannot even fake when there's no interrest or chemistry, I just don't find male bodies attractive at all. I want the female boobs and their sweet energy which males lack. I turn asexual the moment I get close to a dude really. It was pathetic and it happened with all kinds of guys - old, young, etc. I just stood there and was like "So, I'm a guy and you're a guy, I wanted to get a BJ as guys are more available and always willing to give you a BJ, but I don't really feel anything at all now". It's just like wanking alone with no porn or fantasies - boring and without any feelings and they felt I don't feel anything and left me alone. I'm really disgusted by what things I thought about doing, but when you are denied access to females you go in unnatural directions... I went to guys because they're easier than females in online sex chats (how I wish I looked up prostitues and escorts, but I though for some reason people in chats are more real lol). Women require too much sweet talk and I'm not good at flirting in text. I prefer phones for that. Guys were like Oh you're cute, let's meet. Fast and efficient. But I feel nothing, so I'm gonna try female escorts finally.
     
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  17. success091

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    only 2 more year until wizard powers

    i'm thinking of seeing a prostitute when i get my own apartment and i'm only 18, have you tried tinder?
     
  18. BetaToAlpha

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    1.5 years to be precise. :p
    No, online dating doesn't work for me. No luck at Tinder or any dating site.
     
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  19. Adria

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    How is saying hello, for example, sexual harrasment?
    And you respect women but you want to pay them for company?
    Also I'm pretty sure lots of women would like to cuddle with you for free, you just need to stop thinking they are a superior being, they are people just like you and me.
     
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  20. BetaToAlpha

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    Well if sitting with your legs wide appart is offensive to them maybe approaching is more so (btw isn't filming random strangers on the tube privacy infringement? Strange how femaleasswholes get away with that). I grew up reading feministic articles so I see approaching women as creepy if they haven't shown interest first. I'm a victim of feminism.
     
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