Success for newbies

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Timeforachange90, Mar 12, 2019.

  1. Timeforachange90

    Timeforachange90 Fapstronaut

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    I've been reading a lot here about PMO and I just wanted to throw a carrot out to any newbies out there like me who are just starting. I'm into my second week - my PMO tracker is inaccurate and I'm looking to connect with other cam addicts so we can help each other. Message me if you can.
     
  2. g2stop

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    Addiction is very insidious
     
  3. Timeforachange90

    Timeforachange90 Fapstronaut

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    It is but it usually comes from hurt. We have to acknowledge the hurt and pain and find another way to deal with it. How are you dealing with it?
     
  4. g2stop

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    Meditation, goals, visualisations, time with family and friends, positivity, exercise etc
     
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    What I mean is what triggers you and how do stop in those weak moments?
     
  7. g2stop

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    If I do these things I don’t get triggered. Only get triggered if l am feeling low, otherwise why would I get triggered. I think addicts don’t realise that they spend life in negative emotions, when you at out of that, there is no need for addiction.

    The alternative is to try and avoid all triggers, but that will never work as triggers will always be around.
     
  8. g2stop

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    Prevention of weak moments by getting stronger is better than anything else in my experience.
     
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  10. LilD

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    Negative emotions are signals that there's something going wrong. If your life is miserable, you should feel miserable, otherwise, you won't do anything to improve your situation. I think that one of the most important motivators to quit porn for me is the fact that I have these emotions. It's not the emotions that make me relapse, it's the situations in which I feel these emotions.

    So, I agree with you that "prevention of weak moments" is the way to go, but it's not about preventing certain emotions. It's like, "don't be hungry, lonely, angry, or tired" advice which I often hear in 12-step communities (Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, etc.)
     
  11. g2stop

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    I don’t think that is wrong to feel anger, shame, guilt etc. But minimising these helps recovery
     
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