Success for the first time in my life

Your partner is very kind.

 

First off, I just wanted to congratulate you! My first thought while reading this is that it is great that you were able to be vulnerable with your partner.

However, if this is someone who is special to you that you want to keep around then I think it would be best to make it clear to her that you desire her greatly.

Women are sexual creatures just as much as men and they have a subconscious natural desires and senses that are very powerful. No matter how sweet and supportive she is during this time, be sure to show her that you are a compatible sexual being (if you believe you are/could be).

Yes, you are rebuilding yourself right now, but continue to take care of her needs along the way. I would suggest doing lots of foreplay and moving on to oral until she cums many times. After she has been satisfied in that regard, then allow her to focus her attention on helping to repair you. She will respect you and desire you more for this, and you will feel the same towards her.

 

Agreed with others here. Your partner sounds like a keeper. Time spent researching (including asking her) how to best pleasure her with fingers and tongue will be both well spent and richly rewarded.

 

Once you have a good grip of the anatomy and experiment a little, you'll nail it. I just pm'd you a good resource to reference.

 

Congrats, man! I think after hard mode for a long time, and with the excitement you must have felt to have things working on their own, 6 minutes is perfectly respectable. You’ll extend this over time I’m sure. Good advice from others about giving her a good time too. She sounds great!

 

This is great. I can think of a few times when I wish I'd had the courage and confidence to be honest about PIED but couldn't do it. I hope I remember this post next time!

 

you already did the first step and talked open with her about your blockades. don't be to shy to ask if she likes it that way or more the opposit. in the end she knows her body the best from all.
If you think you are not experianced enough how to please her manually or oraly during foreplay.. it's nothing wrong to buy books. i mean i also need to buy a book on how to care of a bonzai tree.. so why is everyone expecting from a man that he knows how to please from day 0 he has his first facial hair. proud of you man and keep her

edit: be carefull books can be triggers!

 

6 mins is a MARATHON compared to my last experience with my girlfriend. I lasted all of about 20 seconds!

I can tell you my personal experiences with PIED. Being an active porn user for so many years, my real sex life started off bumpy, got a little better, then spiraled hopelessly downhill. One thing that happened to me was I became so desensitized that I could remain flaccid right up until I’m about to finish. I would harden up and finish immediately. You can see the challenge that presented during real sex, when I’d fap desperately to get it hard enough to enter (while she waited). Once I was there, it was in and finished. That most recent experience is what led me onto the NoFap path.

So.... 6 whole minutes is a fricken victory, if you ask me!

 

6 minutes is a pretty good avearge man, no idea what she was talking about. A 2005 study says in avearge male orgasm ocurrs anywhere in between 5 to 7 minutes after penetration, but considering you were on a hard mode streak 6 min is a homerun.

 

If she isn’t satisfied at the end, use good fingering skills. The better you can get at using your hands, the happier she will be.

 

Prolong foreplay as long as you can i mean like really really long. don't go straight to boobs and vagina. play around it. Look an analize her eyes. Tease, find where shes most sensitive to tickle, Play with her and get known to her body. Ask her what she likes. let her show you how she likes it. so it will be easier for you to please her in the end you get to the hotsports with finger and tongue! Get her engines warm.

Edit:
Thats what porn is not showing us... Just enjoy the moment in the now with her. it's not only about pumping it's about everything around it. Make it a challenge to get her as warm as possible and then you realize that you won't thinking to much about your dick anymore. well thats the case for me and i got PE