So for a long time we've been trying to conceive, rather unsuccessfully. Probably around 18 months ago we went to get ourselves check out and I was told me sperm count was low and that they had trouble swimming. That was a major blow for me at the time. Around 6 months later (12 months ago) I discovered nofap and was immediately convinced that my sperm problems were the result of porn, so I vowed to quit. At the end of summer we were considering IVF and so I had another sperm test. It turned out that my sperm was completely healthy AND at around the same time we conceived totally naturally!! If ever there was a reason to quit porn, that is it right there. Our child will be due next year and I can't wait to be a father. I can only imagine what else has changed positively in my life due to taking this journey. I should say that the year wasn't porn free; I think I made it to April and then relapsed, and I also relapsed in November due to an event that was a traumatic, and I'm now starting to be porn free again. I'll be resetting my counter to zero today and doing the 2020 no pmo challenge. I can't stress enough that whatever is going wrong in your life, porn is probably the reason. Quit it, and have a great new year!
Congratulations! That is such an amazing story. I pray you continue the journey and are a better father because of your new life!
Congratulations to you both. I camt stress enough how important it would be not to watch porn during your wife's pregnancy or in the time after the birth. This was the biggest blow as a wife to me finding out the addiction spiraled in my last 2 pregnancies and seeing his history too knowing when and what he watched was soul destroying. If you havent told your wife about the problem, it may not be the best time to tell her as her hormones will be savage. If she is aware then I'm glad you have her support because if left any longer without opening up my husband was suffering in silence with anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts so he may well have done something I'm not sure and neither is he. He is 37 days P-feee today and I couldn't feel prouder.
Thanks for the positivity everyone! I'm glad my post is an inspiration also. I don't know if I'll tell the wife about this forum; I haven't told her in the past year I've been a member of it. I feel like porn is something I can deal with on my own, and I've come an incredibly long way so far. With that said though I won't be watching it anymore, god has shown so much grace by blessing me with a child, there's no way I want to throw that back in his face.
I'm happy you got what you want in life. It's great! I wish you all the happiness in the world. As I know watching my husband withdraw from his addiction there are up and down days, and days where you will be really off and she will blame herself. It's best to be honest and save the future upset. There are really good courses called Path for men and Bloom for women there is stuff on there that is really helping.
Congratulation.... You're story just like mine My sperm is low too, and after 4 years marriage and struggling with nofap miracle happen. Now I'm having 2 child. I hope, I can be good father. Believe me, you can't look ur child in the eye if u still doing PMO.
Many congratulations!! Your life will never be the same (in a good way). Enjoy this journey and stay strong for your family.
Congratulations! Wow, I got as far as the bullet point section before… I hope she finds something she likes. I pray for a better father!
Well, I'm not so sure about that statement, but ... I'm glad to hear about your great success. I don't have kids, but I know from acquaintances' experiences it's not an easy task. Be on guard and keep working on your recovery. Congratulations!
Congrtas man for your great victory. it is alway a great feeling to be a father of your child. And porn always take this feeling away from us by many reasons (pied or anxiety or ed). But we need to be strong to make a healthy and porn free for our upcoming childrens and our younger ones.
I absolutely agree. I used to know someone who would watch porn with his 10 year old son, it's disgusting and completely affects us and our children. Here's to 2020 and staying strong!
