Success story for couples

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by CatchingRye, Oct 15, 2019.

  1. CatchingRye

    CatchingRye Fapstronaut

    I am the SO of a PA. Our journey started in Feb 2018, and I used to search on the "Success" thread looking for any type of hope that it was possible for couples to make it through this journey together. I never found much.

    My PA SO is currently 57 days clean, his longest streak ever. I couldn't be more proud. But please don't start to assume this was easy for us. He's been resetting his counter for over a year now just to get to this point.

    We went through so much together. Alot of times it would have been easier to call it quits and move on with out lives. We're not married and both pretty young, so most people just though we should throw in the towel and go seperate ways. In the beginning, I felt like I'd never trust him again. He never thought he'd earn back my trust. This wasn't just porn, infidelity was involved aswell.

    Let me be clear: There were SO MANY ups and downs. Too many to count. Nothing ever really went to way I had planned it in my head, and nothing was perfect. Every step took longer than I thought it should. This was NOT all rainbows and sunshine and I will be the first to admit this is one of the hardest journeys I've ever been on. It has been for him aswell.

    But it is possible. Together. This is the point I want to make.

    It's really starting to feel like we're going back to the "normal" of the relationship. How things felt before all of this was thrown at me. How I used to feel about him before the discovery. There is still alot of work to be done, but just the fact we've gotten this far makes me smile back at the woman in 2018 who begged and pleaded to the universe for this to all work out.

    I am so happy to feel like I have my best friend back, whom I can fully trust and respect.

    I hope this helps anyone in a relationship looking for a glimmer of hope.
    Last edited: Oct 15, 2019
  2. vad

    vad Fapstronaut

    Wow very inspiring! I admire your courage, co-operation and kind-heartedness. You must be very special that instead of giving up, you decided to fight. Well done! Keep it up!!
  3. CatchingRye

    CatchingRye Fapstronaut

    Thank you, much love!
  4. +TenPercent

    +TenPercent Fapstronaut

    Congratulations on 57 days clean!! :cool:
    And I mean that for both you and your SO. You did this together and that is really inspiring.

    I have done most of my sex (mostly P and M) addiction recovery without the benefit of a partner, but I can also attest that it is absolutely worth it. And absolutely possible. This has taken over a decade for me, but now that I have finally given up the P, the M and the fantasy (ALL OF IT!), I am having the best relationship of my life.

    Every day is a challenge and I could easily slip into old behaviours, but success stories like yours remind me of how it really is possible to recover from porn addiction and how both partners will find it well worth the trouble.

    Bless you and all the best to both of you! :)
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  5. CatchingRye

    CatchingRye Fapstronaut

    Thank you so much! So happy for you through this journey and that you've found an amazing relationship! The best to you and your partner aswell.
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  6. control your life

    control your life Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Congrats to both of you and keep strong ! Pmo can destroy families , relationships , friendships . Dont let that happen.

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