Success story (point form)

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  1. successstory

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    Intro: First of all, my hearty thanks to this very supportive and caring community of nofap. This info, since i found out about it a year ago changed my life and sex performance. I now want to share my success story. I will write in point form and make it as short as i can. I know there is a lot to read in this forum so i will stay relevant and short with my paragraphs.

    Stat: 25 years old. 190lbs very muscular and fit. 5'9'' (attract girls very easily). Had 6 partners and 4 relationships. Been suffering from ED since 16, shied away from a lot of girls. Was always very fit and muscular.

    Background:
    First time experiencing ED due to anxiety and embarrassment at age 16. First gf tried giving me a head and i could not get it up. Even tho at that age i was super horny and everything was working and we were having phone sex every night and i was cumming multiple times a night. We both laughed and had lots of sex eventually. And at times, thru out the years i would not be able to get it up sometimes and wearing condoms was a challenge. Now i know it was all due to occasional porn and also chronic masturbation without porn. But back then at that age if i stopped PMO for a day or 2 i was back to normal pretty fast.​

    First time it went bad: After the breakup with my 1st gf at age 20 i was trying with different girls. I did not know i had ED then, or what kind of effect i've been carrying around on me by watching porn every night. And one time i could not get it up with a girl. She got upset, i lost her. I did not understand why, even tho i had amazing sex before and it wasnt my first time. Now i know it was PIED.

    First time i got back to normal: Someone told me to retain semen in order to have good sex with hard erection. Without doing much research and knowing abut nofap or the science behind it, i just stopped orgasming for a few month. Morning erection came back, and was also getting wet dreams. Met a girl (girl #3) and started making her hole body shake with good sex regularly.

    Repeat of ED: After losing the girl (girls #3) after 2 years (partly due to ed, same girl whom i used to make cum several times a day, ill get into it below) i was depressed and became addicted to porn without knowing what it was doing to me. This time it was taking longer to heal. Went to Cancun, and a super fit hot Danish girl was all up on me and i could not get it up (watched porn the day before).

    Met another gorgeous girl (girl #4) after 1 year and every time i would try having sex i would either cum too fast before reaching erection or not be able to get hard at all.
    My trial and error and learning:
    During the girl number 4 i was really struggling with erection. I did not understand why i would be able to be super erect by porn but not with a real girl. I had no drive even if she was grinding on me, blowing me or tugging me. She was extremely good looking 5'11'' model like bodied hottie with blonde hair and perfect face. I would either cum in 2 secs without an erection or just not feel anything at all. And i started watching more porn, as porn is the only thing that helped me get an erection and i was thinking i will be more in-control with her next time. All went in reverse of course...

    Here is the reason: as she was extremely hot i felt like ill cum in 2 secs therefore i would jerk off right before a date, every time. That lead to ED several times. Then after reading in this forum i realized everything i knew about PMO was wrong.​

    Back to girl 3: I applied the same idea with this girl, thinking if i start watching porn and cum before hand i will be able to last longer. And eventually developed ED mid relationship, sex life went from pornstar level to no erection or cumming in 2 secs for several months (i was watching porn for months at the end of the relationship)

    Back to girl 4: I stopped watching porn after reading on this forum and within 2 weeks i got back to having good sex. Had first sex with her after 4 months of knowing her. I came pretty fast on 1st round, then from the second round i was good again until we broke up.

    Relapse: I was depressed again and became addicted. Dick stopped working. Could not get it up with many girls even tho i knew why at this point. I just didint care...

    Success again: Recently a girl asked me out when i was doing my NoFap and was flatlining at that point. I was terrified. What if i couldnt get it up?? On first night she took me to her place and i found excuses to not take off my pants (i had a dead penis, probably less than an inch long unerect). Then few more times in the next week i had the same problem. I could not get it up 4 different times in total. So i just told her whats going on and she was supportive. At times she was upset was like "thanks for turning me down lol". She was thinking i wasnt finding her hot enough.

    Yesterday after 2 weeks of NoFap, no porn, no jerking off, and 1 week of seeing her i popped a pill and fucked her 5 times (first time i did it, and it just speeded up the process physically).

    At first the pill did not work as the ED was mental, not physical. She tried giving me a head and i just wasn't responding to it. It has been so long without a real girl and my brain was wired to porn. I was still laying there with her naked, watching netflix after the 5th fail. She was a little sad.

    Then i started fingering her and right away i got hard after i felt her wetness and realizing how badly i wanna get in there. i quickly asked her if i can skip the condom just to make sure i dont lose the erection, she was okay with it and after the first few mins i wore the condom and continued after i was confident i wont lose the erection. I made her whole body shake. First sex in 6 months...!

    Today i fucked her again 3 times. Now i feel like im back to normal. And i dont need the pill anymore. And i will keep it that way by making sure every time im horny i will feed my body and brain with sex, so that it knows nothing else.

    Since then, i have been having a very full and hard erection, even spontaneously all thru out the day. Even the un-erect penis hangs a good 3 inches with a tight sac.
    Conclusion and my advice:
    If you wanna have sex then just stop doing other things, period. Survive the flat line and it does get back to normal. Give it time. Jerking off or watching porn wont make you last longer or give a rock hard erection.

    Only normal sex with normal life and natural sex life will. You cannot function with different things. Its either just porn, just sex, or just fetishes or just whatever else.

    And if you need to help yourself out with a pill or something then by all means give it a go. It will at least help you psychologically. And communicate with the girls. If she is nice she will help you out, either by waiting or by giving you a hand or head or something.

    It all gets cured with time i promise you. Just stick to it. Its like working out, you will only grow the part that you exercise. If you exercise the porn part, not the sex part; you know the rest...

    All the best! Ask any question you want :)

     
    Last edited: Feb 21, 2018
  2. Victorious21

    Victorious21 Fapstronaut

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    Hello mate thank you for your story, first attempt nofap for me and i had sex 2 days ago but i got PE, i don't have p.i.e.d anymore but don't know how to fix PE, feel free if you have any tips
     
  3. ashutoshb2018

    ashutoshb2018 Fapstronaut

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    how do u attract so many girls? how did u learn conversation skills?
     
  4. successstory

    successstory Fapstronaut

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    few things ive seen that really worked:
    1. Make sure youre fully erect when you insert (and nofap will help you to be fully erect around your SO due to higher sex drive). By fully erect i mean you can take someones eye out with it lol. That way you wont have to keep squeezing and pumping your penis to stay hard. Sometimes the pumping squeezing from the perineum area can induce early orgasm. Just be fully rock hard erect before inserting, and thrust with your waist and dont use any other muscles. I however stop here and there and pump my dick in her to make her feel my size. then ill relax again and thrust.
    2. Reverse kegel: From now every time you pee try to force it out until the last drop. And do the exact same when having sex and youre inside her and almost reaching orgasm. Just pause and push out. That will prevent contraction that leads to orgasm, for a long time. This is useful also for people who recently jerked off and feel some kind of soreness in the tract like UTI. Keep drinking water and force out your pee, it will help.
    3. Keep changing positions every few mins.
    4. When you know youre about to orgasm, just go really fast and rough. One, it will please her and two you will get a good practice of hard sex. It will give you more confidence next time and you will last longer.
    5. Slow down whenever you feel like youre about to cum.
    6. Stop and ask her for head or eat her out. If you lose erection while doing so then you have some form of ED. Doing a week or 2 of nofap will fix it. You should be able to be hard the entire time youre engaged in sexual activity with her. Not only when youre inside her.

    Hope those help! Let me know in few days if any of those worked!
     
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  5. successstory

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    TBH what really matters is how good of a listener you're. Just ask questions and listen. Girls love to talk about themselves. Also try to gain some knowledge on girly stuff, such as nails, shows, shopping and crap like that lol. When you can relate to those things with a smile they will think of you as a bf material. The connection will be strong. At the same time be manly and egoless. Also dress well, smell good and lift weights. When you look good, anything that comes out of your mouth is gold to them. I also try to keep knowledge of current affairs and movies and music. I match their level of enthusiasm when they talk about those things. Being agreeable also helps. Also make fun of yourself and be a gentleman and point out your flaws before they see it. that way they will trust you better. For example: i will say something cheesy, then i will say "haha sorry for being so cheesy" or "damn im the king of lame jokes", or "what a fail, hope you didnt see it". Also make them feel special and complement them without sounding creepy. like "oh your hair smells nice" with a innocent smile (avoid having a douchy smile and eyes), and say things like "i like your watch/jacket/shoes" "you have a very innocent smile". And above all, make sure you respect women and treat them like people. Girls are very good at noticing these things and they will reward you. Sex is easy and its everywhere, girls can sleep with anyone they want. But finding a good guy is hard, be a good guy. :) hope these help :)
     
    Last edited: Feb 20, 2018
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  6. ashutoshb2018

    ashutoshb2018 Fapstronaut

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    no wonder girls would like someone like you!
    thanks for the wisdom, will apply it after a few years (first i want to get into a good college, im 16)
     
  7. successstory

    successstory Fapstronaut

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    I wish you all the best with your academics! Also try to have female friends and interactions everywhere you go regularly (school, parks, neighborhood). One, it will keep you motivated and excited to go do those positive things such as classes and evening games; two, it will keep you social and likely to meet a potential gf, three your libido will be higher being around females, four it will make you grow respect for them and keep any potential perversion away. Btw congrats and really impressive that youre on this forum at such early age, shows that youre advanced for your age and care about being the best version of yourself. All the best!
     
  8. Amazing story bro! Keep it up!
     
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  9. Victorious21

    Victorious21 Fapstronaut

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    @successstory Thank man ! i will come back to give you report next time i try! i think im too much focused on reaching orgasm instead on doing the act !
     
  10. successstory

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    Reaching orgasm is what you should want to delay. But i realized when im not fully hard i cum faster. As i try to force my dick to stay hard inevitably force myself to cum or vice versa. Trying to stay hard by trying to cum also makes me finish fast.

    What you wanna do instead is reach 100% erection (might take some time to reach that if youre not used to being rock hard for sex) and then insert. Then just relax and let your hips do all the work. At times push out (as if youre trying to force pee out) a bit to delay orgasm.

    All the best!
     
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  11. ashutoshb2018

    ashutoshb2018 Fapstronaut

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    thank you so much! I will update you after 2 years about the college I get admission in.
    I would love to be your ap and do this 2 year journey with you though :)
     
  12. successstory

    successstory Fapstronaut

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    absolutely, im here to help with anything i know.
     

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