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Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Kevoya, Aug 19, 2018.
How often have you told yourself that you won't fail again?
I have a problem. Instead of telling myself i wont fail again, i keep telling myself these benefits mean nothing because I am me an introvert under achiever because of the cruelty of others. So i force myself to think that fapping and many other behaviors i used to have did not make me a rich independent man with his own family.
I do want to not masturbate any more. But I know that this is a goal that I can't reach. So let me say, my ideal goal is, never to masturbate, but the real world goal is to reduce masturbation as far as possible (and making progress in getting closer to the ideal).
Every time and it sucks every time but once I get past the first few days, I aim to go indefinitely for a specified amount of time, to heal and balance my energies on all levels and energy of my body. But like I said, I only do that to heal my body and to stop being so drained post-orgasms. I plan to incorporate semen retention with some ejaculations once a couple month.
It's better to let your body do that for you than you do that voluntarily.
To many times; unfortunately.
The biggest problem I notice with that, is that it creates a habit of faillure. A habit of giving up, and a habit of underperformance.
And that is the worse consequence of it, in my experience.
I'm now training hard, to break habits of giving up and faillure. And to train now hard my muscle of (Vīrya (in buddhism)), aka training: grit, determenation, perseverance, stamina, energy/enthousiasm/passion, etc.. This month so far I fucked up 2 days, since I started on the 2nd of augustus. That comming from an almost daily PMO user is a big improvement I think. And I'm motivated a shitload to keep going with alot of energy and enthousiasm; and when the energy and enthousiasm factor has come down I hope that my new habits and my better trained grit/virya-muscle will do the rest.
I do my best. I am fully aware that masturbation causes stress and nervousness in my life. It addicts. But sometimes moments of weakness happen. I regret every time.
But I think I will manage it sooner or later.
I know I'm can't really quit masturbation forever. But I want to stop for long enough to at least let my body and mind heal, I want to live a healthy live, not one full of misery cause I can't stop touching myself. Every time I go a couple of days without pmo and start to feel better I eventually break and fap again.
Why isn’t 100% allowed?
I meant to put 75-100%.
Would you say masturbation is unnatural?
" "Just as the purpose of eating is to satisfy hunger, not greed, so the sex instinct is designed for the
propagation of the species according to natural law, never for the kindling of insatiable longings,"
he said. "Destroy wrong desires now; otherwise they will follow you after the astral body is torn
from its physical casing. Even when the flesh is weak, the mind should be constantly resistant. If
temptation assails you with cruel force, overcome it by impersonal analysis and indomitable will.
Every natural passion can be mastered." Autobiography of a Yogi
Thank you, I will find the right balance for myself.
Great quote. Likewise for us girls, I think we should strive to get our enjoyment of sex from penetration rather than clitoral stimulation. The former doesn't create new life, just a quick and selfish dopamine hit.
Interesting point. I bet clitoral stimulation was found during sex for the want of orgasm, not the need.
I am afraid that I will have too many close calls and eventually let that be the norm and relapse. I have had close calls with porn but I have managed to steer myself into the right path.
My first response. This is how semen is made in our body. Food - Chyle - Blood - Fat - Bones - Marrow - Semen. Approx 32 kgs of food eatan creates about 15 mg of semen which is wasted in 1 ejaculation. It takes about a month to eat 32 kgs of food. So ban PMO at all costs