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Successful rebooters, do you still lust for real women in public ?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by petite_mort, Aug 9, 2017.

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  1. Aug 9, 2017 #1
    petite_mort

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    The question sums it all up.

    Today I was waiting for the train on the platform and saw a very attractive woman passing me by. I won't go into details lest I make anyone on here relapse, but I couldn't get my eyes off her, I was literally standing there watching her as all kinds of sexually-related thoughts started racing in my head.
    Now my goal isn't to beat a dead horse. We all know the effects a woman can have on a man, anytime and anywhere, but it is obviously the object of our addiction to porn and this kind of everyday happening is a trial to our much-needed discipline ; in the worst case, in can linger in our minds long enough so we relapse when the possibility comes.

    I used to be a successful rebooter, but even then I was lusting after women this way, wondering almost exclusively how intercourse would be like with such person ; instead of contemplating her beauty, or simply noticing her traits. I've been behaving like this since my teenage years (although they were, unsurprisingly, intermingled with my porn consumption), and something tells me that as long as I will keep doing this, I'll be at porn's mercy.

    What are your thoughts on the topic ? Is it safe to visually lust after women during or after a reboot ? Or maybe it is impairing ? Either way, how so ?
     
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  2. Aug 9, 2017 #2
    lantti

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    No it's not safe but I'm really tired to explain why. Especially the way you said it.
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    The pope has spot on in this. You visualize about the outside, but you don't see the inside. Think about the warmth that woman could give you, think of things she could do for you, think of the woman you want to be more time than one night stand:) Someone who is really worth of your time and effort, not just some big ass pornstar that you can put your sperm in. Someone you can actually loveo_O
     
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  3. Aug 9, 2017 #3
    plant goodness

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    Stop fantasizing dammit all.

    It's wired into us to get excited around the opposite sex when we find them attractive. It is literally in our DNA. It is a chemical reaction by no exaggeration.

    This video is cool:



    So stop the fantasy and just let the charge of energy flow through you when you encounter such a female or DAMMIT MAN, BE A MAN AND GO START A CONVERSATION IF YOU WANT HER NUMBER!

    No it's not going to aid you to think lustful thoughts. That kind of thinking will weaken your self-control.
     
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    Just try to keep your focus above her shoulders. This way you can appreciate her beauty without getting all worked up. I know it's hard during the warm months when they're always showing something. Who knows, maybe she notices you too and gives you a nice smile. That would be a whole lot better than her catching you staring at her ass!
     
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