Super Duper Depressed

Show him this website. He should open up and get educated. It is very wrong. There is no justification for it, only lies. Yes, everyone wrongs, but continuining to wrong without education and awareness is the problem. You should seek to improve yourself with him also. Talk to him at night. Have a relantionship of trust and especially mutual support and encouragement

"I’ve lost my job because I didn’t look present!" I recommend you try some exercise or meditation for just 10-20minutes a day. Sometimes life is tough and gets us all down. Going down yourself because the weight is pushing you downwards, isn't helping you. It isn't helping anyone.

The way to solve a problem is not by quitting

 

Must be stressful on him too .

Maybe try to talk to him everytime you see one. I know some men cam get anmoyed when the wife starts acting like a school teacher. "Dont drink so much you will get drunk". "Dont drink at tonights party" ...
Maybe someone older and married or experienced will give some better advice. Or try to look for similar threads in the past made by wives .

 

I’m so sorry you are going through this, it’s a horrific situation but you are not alone. Let us support you. Trust does come with time. Try to work on you, do something that makes you smile everyday, even if is something simple like going for a nice relaxing bath. Do things for you, not for him.

Something I have learned recently is that PAs only change when they want to. No matter how much it hurts, if they don’t want to change they won’t. Addict behaviour means they will do anything to protect themselves and the source of their addiction.

We’re here if you need to talk.