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Surviving in a world of sexualized media

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by OedipusR3x, Dec 19, 2018.

  1. OedipusR3x

    OedipusR3x Fapstronaut

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    Fellow fapstronauts. I'm on the longest streak I've ever had. My motivation has remained strong and I've been keeping my eyes on the prize. This helps me when negative thoughts or urges enter my mind so I can simply say no and send them packing.

    However, part of my success has been because of avoiding hyper sexual media. Sometimes my brain tries to convince me I want to look up something because I'm "interested" in it, but I'm really looking for pictures of attractive women that I know will be associated with whatever topic I want to look up. I've been getting better at recognizing my brain's tricks and avoiding those situations.

    But.

    There are attractive women in media everywhere. I can't just avoid it forever, and I want to be able to enjoy a random TV show without almost losing my shit just because some hot girl with big tits showed up in a bikini strutting her stuff.

    Does anyone with significant experience have advice on how to deal with everything that comes our way randomly that we weren't seeking intentionally? It is so hard not to fantasize about everything I see while I'm this far along. It just takes one trigger, be it a hot girl I see on the street or a sexy shot in a movie, and my mind starts getting away from me. What do you all do to combat this? Do you just get better at appreciating things for what they are and stopping your brain from fantasizing?
     
  2. Skyfall1125

    Skyfall1125 Fapstronaut

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    Great streak man! Keep it up!
     
  3. Mattew

    Mattew Fapstronaut

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    I think you can't totally stop fantasizing, and i don't know if you should either.

    I think you must try to avoid fantasizing just in the first 2 month, only because fantasizing could lead to watch porn and relapsing.
    But beside that, i don't think fantasizing is bad, at least if you're not triyng to become a monk or a priest.
     
  4. SpoonDog

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    I never quite realised the extent of how sexualised the mainstream media is before I started NoFap.

    I get my news from very mainstream and respected publications, yet these are full of highly sexualised articles and endless photos of desperate z-list celebrities in various states of undress. That's before you switch on the TV in which every show on after 9pm seems to include an obligatory sex scene.

    In isolation these things aren't going to cause me to relapse, but they seem to have a cumulative effect, especially after a bad day, and that increases the risk of relapse. I'm sure others have experienced this.

    As for how we avoid it. Well, with difficulty. Short of living in a cave, I think we just have to learn to live with these potential triggers. I hope that as time goes on and we move closer towards recovery, the impact will lessen and our brains will disassociate these images with the impulse to PMO. Until then, I'm just relying on willpower.
     
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