I can say that how he describes the addiction is SPOT ON (sounds exactly like I feel at times: resentful that females seem to have so much incredible, visceral power over me, my body, and my emotions. And I felt powerless to do anything but stew in desire, squirming at their mercy. But I was not wise enough or mature enough in my thinking until decades later to realize how much garbage I had been drinking and how it had turned into an unhealthy addiction and warped view of women/sex. Whether he is still using porn, or using that truth about porn to CON you back into a relationship with him... I cannot say. I find women's intuition mostly right; trust it. And sounds like you've closed that back-door anyway, so that's good. Simply put: We lie to ourselves about what we are watching. We pretend. We so desperately want to believe that quick, easy sex can be real and fulfilling, readily available and personally accessible, beautiful and without consequence. We flee hard truths as cowards into a fantasy world, paying no mind to the lives of those who create & sustain our illusions. And yes, the unintended consequence of cowardice and the refusal to face hard truths, to take responsibility for fixing what is broken... this does diminish and dehumanize many people. I am barely 9 months sober and still so much fog...so much to unlearn.