It's somewhat different for us porn addicts. Overcoming this addiction forced me to do a lot of honest and active introspection, what we might call 'recovery work'. That work taught me about myself. I honestly believe I've matured enormously in the last few years as a result of the work I have done to overcome my porn addiction. Does that mean I am lucky to have been an addict? No, and yes. I wish I could have found a way to put in that work earlier, so that I had the strength of character to not get into porn in the first place. "But I was young and foolish, and now am full of tears" to quote Yeats. I look back now and there are so many moments I made a fool of myself or did something stupid or nasty. I fantasize about how I would play them now with all I know about myself (and about others and the world). But if 17 or 25 year old me had the maturity and self-understanding of 53 year old me would I have made the same choices, even the ones I need now? Would my wife have fallen in love with me and me with her? Have you read The Unbearable Lightness of Being? We only live this life once, so we will never know how things would play out if we had made different choices. That is a very scary thought and therefore many of us like to narrate our lives so that the choices we made to bring ourselves here & now were good ones (or at least forgivable bad ones!) Am I remembering correctly that when Candide finally rejects Pangloss's 'it's all for the best in the best of all possible worlds' philosophy he decides instead to tend his own garden? That also seems interesting. You only need to watch the news for 20 seconds to know that all is not for the best and this is not the best of all possible worlds, but how do we work to fix it? On thing that is wrong is the pornification of society, and one action I can take is to fix myself. For me that is both a personal and a political action.