In Patrick Carne’s book, “Out of the Shadows, understanding Sexual Addiction.” That book Is something that your spouse should read. You’d find it interesting, too. It’s a ground moving look at SA. ‘Easy’ read; hard topic. Carnes describes addiction, One aspect that stuck: Preoccupation leads to ritualization leads to Sexual compulsivity leads to Despair leads to Preoccupation again. I think ogling falls under preoccupation. Ritualization is further into his addiction and each step is harder to stop progression. If I stop the preoccupation, I can halt the progression. That is what I find help with in a 12 program, which is what Cranes suggests in the ending chapters. If he wants help he can reach for it. Ghostwriter often suggests boundaries, those along with a good path forward in a program decided by him is the hope. As far as I know.