Swallowing The Bitter Pill

DanForABetterLife

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I’m not rich. I’m not great looking. I’m not overwhelming in confidence. I’m not free. I’m still living in my parents' house. I don’t have many friends. I don’t have a girlfriend whom I can share intimate moments with. I don’t have many people that care about me. This... is my current life.

I’m not rich. Even I have a new car (provided by my parents), even I have a good place to stay in (a mini-mansion as I call it and almost all the things that I wish is in here), even I have graduated in a prestigious University. Even if I have the means to go to places. Even I can eat the food that I want for my nutrition. These things don’t provide me richness in life and fulfillment. Though these things provide me comfort and leisure, I still long for something that would provide enrichment in my life.

I’m not great looking. I can say that I am better looking than average. And I have spare time to exercise and focus on my nutrition. However, due to the current problems that I am facing and the ongoing transition toward a healthier life, I don’t feel much energetic and happy, which greatly affects my vibrance and resilience that affects my physical appearance.

I’m not free. I still live at my parents' house. I still depend on them for my well being. And as payback, I do things for them, small errands and short requests.

I don’t have many people to share what I really feel in the inside. I don’t have people to care for me when I am really down and sad. Some of my friends laughed at me after sharing this forum with them. That made me feel that I don’t have the same sexual values with them and this made me want to find friends that would be walking the same path as me. I also want to have a romantic relationship, but I want to learn more about myself and be free from this addiction so I may fully share myself and not just use a woman for gratifying my fantasies.

All of these things... I accept.
There are no shortcuts in living a fulfilling life. As I continue rebuilding my life no matter how slow and no matter how big the obstacles are. I must swallow the bitter truth to the consequences that I have made in the past. And retain focus in the present, as the now that we are in is all I have.

I made this thread to share the bitter truths that I am facing. And for those people who want to face the truth in their lives. Feel free to share them here. Let’s support each other in having a fulfilling life.
 
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I’m not rich.

I'm sure nobody in this forum is.

I’m not great looking.

You want a GF? One thing I learned is, that's its mostly about attitude than look.

I’m not overwhelming in confidence

Nofap is definitively the best way to start gaining confidence.

And I have spare time to exercise and focus on my nutrition.

That's great. A good nutrition seems helping me so far. No more sugar, junk food and fat.
 
Do you think feeling sorry for yourself will solve your problems?
 
All of these things... I accept.
There’s no shortcuts in living a fulfilling life. As I continue rebuilding my life no matter how slow and no matter how big the obstacles are. I must swallow the bitter truth to the consequences that we have made in the past. And retain focus in the present as the now that we are in is all I have.
So your Journey started. I want to see how you will grow in the future. Accepting weakness is the only way to gain true strength and that's what you did and will be doing.
 
Do you think feeling sorry for yourself will solve your problems?

No. But it provided me a way to ground myself. To accept reality and to rebuild what I have lost. Back then I was a great kid, now, I am just a normal person or even lower in terms of confidence, financial status, physical appearance. This post was a way for me to release my feelings. It was a way to face my reality now and make plans on how to have the life that I want instead of running away from the bad emotions and negative self-talk.
 
materialistic is not same as fullfillness, they only give temporary joy, u need to find what is giving u true joy

also dont stress on ur looks. You, me, everyone, we are attractive to some and unattractive to others. Beauty is subjective!

as well as, a relationship based solely on looks is doomed to fail. I would rather date a girl that's "average looking" with a great personality rather than a "hot girl" with a bad personality. Theres plenty of fish in the sea regardless!
 
I can relate to this. Hits really close to home. I feel weird having almost graduated college at the age of 19. Like being ahead feels weird for me. I still live with my parents who house and feed me. Stay strong and keep moving on bro
 
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