Taking my life back

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by ReachForTheSkies, Apr 11, 2019.

  1. Hi.

    I'm 24 year old male and I've been struggling for the last four years with this addiction. I've started M in the age of 12. From that point I did it almost daily while watching porn. Looking at it right now I can see that it has affected my life. I have low self-esteem, my porn addiction lowered my libido. I'm in a bad physical shape. I've never been in a relationship.

    I've tried nofap for a few times but never got past two weeks. What makes this time so special? For one, I've decided to write here. I believe that there is strength in numbers. Together we can beat this!

    So yesterday I've started my streak again. This isn't going to be easy but it is worth it. It's time to take my life back!
     
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  2. CoolRandomDesiDude

    CoolRandomDesiDude Fapstronaut

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    We are with you bro. The real fun starts when you end this beast.
     
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  3. CoolRandomDesiDude

    CoolRandomDesiDude Fapstronaut

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    I got into this habit the same age as you. Can you tell me what drove you to this no man`s land and how things went for you in high school as a result
     
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  4. Thanks for the kind words, CoolRandomDesiDude!

    At first, when I started M, I did not see anything wrong with it. I was always shy. Always considered myself an introvert. It was hard setting connections with new people. But I have brushed this things off as a result of "who I am". About four years ago I've found out about NoFap and the negative impact of porn on the reward circuit of the brain. And then it hit me. I've never actually fully been "myself" because I just kept M'ing. And so my fight with addiction has began. At first I thought that it would be simple. After four years of struggling I can say for sure that it is not. Though I can't say that I've made no progress it is still leaves much to be desired. My biggest mistake is that I've kept bargaining with myself ("one more time", etc.). So there must be no more compromises.

    I'm not giving up hope. I will do this. It will require a lot but it is certainly doable.

    But this issues I've described won't just go by themselves. I understand that. I will need to tackle them. My addiction just hid the true self even from myself. I will need to get that person out to the light and work out the issues.

    And yeah, high school was fine aside from fact that never was in a relationship with a girl. Sometimes I feel really lonely.
     
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  5. CoolRandomDesiDude

    CoolRandomDesiDude Fapstronaut

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    i am trying to salvage my teen years and you are a good example of me in the future if I don`t sweep this habit.
     
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  6. CoolRandomDesiDude

    CoolRandomDesiDude Fapstronaut

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    Never reason with your mind because it will always try to cheat you. It wants you to stay in the comfort zone and not grow by facing what is hard.
     
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  7. CoolRandomDesiDude

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    Ever since I have started lifting weights, I engrained this philosophy in my head that you get stronger by resistance training. If you are on a big streak, take my advice at your own risk but if you have had recent relapses, may I suggest this. Go and search up those fap compilations and every time you get hard pause, get down and do 15 pushups. If it is still there, 15 situps. If it remains 15 squats. If it is not gone then plank for how long you need to until that bastard shrivels up. If that doesn`t kill your boner, I don`t know what will. You must be high on testosterone and should have slayed many thots if that thing survives. Then get back on the video and resume and repeat. To check your progress, track how many seconds you can last before the first one pops up or how many you pop in one video.
     
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  8. CoolRandomDesiDude

    CoolRandomDesiDude Fapstronaut

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    You have to take control of your mind because artificial things like porn blockers have an expiry date or some damn loophole. When your mind is controlled, then you can literally have porn handed to you on a silver platter and walk away. Here is a video detailing this.
     
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  9. Thanks! For the method and for the video. I will watch it right now. The method will probably trigger me to relapse, so I won't do it. I will continue to workout hard though.
     
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  10. CoolRandomDesiDude

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    It is all about strengthening your control over your mind
     

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