Taking the 90 Day Challenge: How do I tell her?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by coloursmove, May 30, 2020.

  1. coloursmove

    coloursmove Fapstronaut

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    I've been on a few dates with someone I met online. So far we've just kissed and cuddled and she's starting to give me signals that she'd like me to stay over at her place soon.

    I'm still at the early stages of a hardmode 90 Day Challenge so want to have lots of contact with her but want to steer clear of full sex and my own climax.

    Has anyone had any experience of telling someone about your hard mode reboot and how you went about it? It's of course important to be open and honest with her, but starting a conversation with "hey I'm a recovering porn addict" while we're getting in the mood isn't exactly an appealing prospect!

    Anyone have any advice for me?
     
  2. p1n1983

    p1n1983 Fapstronaut

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    Go after what you want and don't care about what she is going to think about it.
    If you want to be on hard mode for 90 days, just do 90 days hard mode. If she wants to have sex before that just tell her that you are not allowed to do that until the 90 days are gone because you are practicing semen retention because of all the benefits you read about it. You don't have to tell her you are doing it because you where a porn addict, but you have to stick to your guns.
    If she wants to have sex with you she is going to go at you with all that she can to make you cave. Woman love a challenge, and a man that don't want to have sex with them is a challenge woman are not used to have, and find it really attractive. Keep your word no matter what, even if she said that she will leave you if you don't have sex. if that's the case, tell her to contact you if she change her mind or after the 90 days are over.
     
  3. coloursmove

    coloursmove Fapstronaut

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    Okay thanks for the advice. You're right, honesty is the best approach, but not necessarily total honesty about the reasons/motivations behind this effort. Let's see what her response will be. Thanks for the advice.
     

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