Taking too long to "finish"

KillMyDarlings · Jul 9, 2017

Mike Hawk said: ↑

I haven't been doing nofap for very long but I have had some decent stretches where I've gone a couple weeks without masturbating. But it's easy now because I have a solid sex life. But the thing that's worrying me is at the end of August my girlfriend and I are going away to college and we're going to be 4 hours away. We're both going to go so long without sex from each other and I'm really not wanting to masturbate during any of it.
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4 months...see I'd actually love that....

What annoys me, being single, is that I'm constantly improving my game and moving along...

I've had long distance periods in the past with a gf and found it challenging to say the least, but also an opportunity to really train minus the pressure.

Think of martial arts movies where the hero climbs the mountain and get to the top to learn fighting techniques from the wise guru in preparation to fight his arch nemesis. It takes time and discipline!

Mike Hawk · Jul 9, 2017

KillMyDarlings said: ↑

4 months...see I'd actually love that....

What annoys me, being single, is that I'm constantly improving my game and moving along...

I've had long distance periods in the past with a gf and found it challenging to say the least, but also an opportunity to really train minus the pressure.

Think of martial arts movies where the hero climbs the mountain and get to the top to learn fighting techniques from the wise guru in preparation to fight his arch nemesis. It takes time and discipline!
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I have thought of that as an opportunity to go without any PMO. Which is something I think might be needed. It's not something I'm going to try right now because I mean, no sex? Haha that's not happening. But I can deal with no masturbation for a long time. I'm just worried the lack of sex is just going to make me want to masturbate even more. Who knows, maybe I'll be so busy in college I won't even have time for that.

pmojay · Jul 29, 2017

KillMyDarlings said: ↑

I also have DE, and can last 3-4 hours...I've gone for 6 with one girl...

The positive though, is that the girl is always satisfied.

The negative is that she gets bored, wants me to finish, though sex between us is more of a precise airline flight the girl can get annoyed with not being able to do anything for me.

I'm looking into meditation and anxiety ailments to help me. Mental training. As a proudly busy and productive person, most others can not understand how I manage everything going on.

I also suspect Deathgrip syndrome, as I have a very specific method for M, which needs to go. No part of M for me translates over to actual sex.

Nofap is the way.

How many days are you on?
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I'm curious, what was your specific method for 'M'?

GG2002 · Jul 29, 2017

Mike Hawk said: ↑

My main reason for wanting to try nofap is to hopefully improve my performance in bed. My only struggle is taking forever to cum at times. Now there are times where my girlfriend and I need to be able to end it soon and I can be done in 5 minutes or so. But there are other times where I can go for an hour to hour and a half sometimes. I'm not totally sure what she thinks about it. I think that I masturbate a normal amount. Maybe 3 times a week, with sex 2 or 3 times a week on top of it. I'm pretty sure my gf actually enjoys the long bouts of sex because I mean, the more the merrier right? But where it becomes frustrating is when she's blowing me. It feels amazing when she does it but I cannot get off from a bj or a handy. Is this normal or should I be able to get off from it? She's doing everything right but I haven't busted from just that once yet. If no porn and no masturbation for 60 days or so helps this then I'll definitely write a thread about it so hopefully if somebody else has the same issue they'll know the "cure". Cheers
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No not the more the merrier please disavow yourself of that. I am,female and unless she's told you she enjoys sex that long she does not. She thinks she's bad in bed because she can't make you orgasm, and that you are not attracted to her. She's in physical pain cause you are taking too long. The PMO is causing the issue. I'm a SO.

GG2002 · Jul 29, 2017

KillMyDarlings said: ↑

I also have DE, and can last 3-4 hours...I've gone for 6 with one girl...

The positive though, is that the girl is always satisfied.

The negative is that she gets bored, wants me to finish, though sex between us is more of a precise airline flight the girl can get annoyed with not being able to do anything for me.

I'm looking into meditation and anxiety ailments to help me. Mental training. As a proudly busy and productive person, most others can not understand how I manage everything going on.

I also suspect Deathgrip syndrome, as I have a very specific method for M, which needs to go. No part of M for me translates over to actual sex.

Nofap is the way.

How many days are you on?
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As much as you satisfy her she will never be fully satisfied until you can O from sex in a normal time frame and she will be less likely to have sex with you as she does not have 3 or 4 hours everyday to do it.

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