Talking to girls, Problems.. all that good stuff

I feel ya.

 

YUP! I'm still working towards my college degree (almost there haha!) and live with my parents while working a fairly basic job so I often have feelings of inadequacy compared to my peers around my age. Those things coupled with the addiction to porn definitely gave me the inadequate thoughts and feelings, but what I find helping me break them is to realize that I'm not stuck in the same place I was before and that I'm making progress every day to be the best version of myself. Even if all I do is not watch porn and masturbate during that day I've made progress on improving myself because that was the old, lonely me who did that.

Find things to make you feel good about yourself and slowly you'll start to not feel as inadequate and don't compare yourself to others, compare yourself to the previous you. You said it yourself, girls approach you which gives you plenty of opportunities! Think about the guys that feel like they never get approached or looks of interest, you're already ahead of the game than some guys are! Don't focus on what you think your inadequacies are, focus on having fun and getting to know the girls. Plus for all you know the girl you're talking to might be thinking the same way as you but you don't know that because you yourself don't feel good enough. A lot of girls seem to be insecure these days, so being strong and confident is even more important and potentially attractive.

 

Hi there,
You are very lucky if you are being approached. Normally you have to do the approaching, this is very rare, which says there has to be something to you that women see. Remember women see through facades and lies easily, they just know who you are or rather they feel it. So if you can't believe in yourself, why don't you try believing in the girl that likes you.

Just drop all opinion about yourself, drop that shit. Make the woman laugh, fuck her, repeat.

 

Yep similar...go to the gym and quit PMO and the feelings start to fade, including the "size" concerns.
If its on your mind google image regarding pornstars measuring up...its mostly weird angles, tiny girls, inaccurate measurements special drugs and pumps...used to get called "smalls" in the locker room which got into my head until I realized it was ironic, but yea funny how a perception can mask reality.

 

I can identify with feeling inadequate and frustrated with myself, so you're not alone in this. What do you think you could change in order to get past only thinking about sex with them?

 

I dont think so

 

You're right, maybe not lies. But I you put up a front to pick them up/impress them they know it's not you. And they can tell easier than men.