Talking to girls, Problems.. all that good stuff

wheybrodien

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Hey everyone whats up everyone! I'm just going to be straight to the point.
Basically my interactions with women are fine, hell at the club I often get approached first (enough times to give me more then plenty of chances). I always turn women down and show disinterest due to my own feelings of inadequacy and it frustrates me.

I think the problems roots stem from porn because all I think about is having sex with the girl, even though we have only just met. On top of this I am very self conscious about my size even though I'm larger then average (you know what I'm referring to). I guess I'm just used to seeing crazy shit on porn which then makes me feel less adequate.

Does anyone experience this?? I need to know that I'm not alone here as I pass up so many opportunities. This might sound dumb but I'm serious

Thanks
 
Hey everyone whats up everyone! I'm just going to be straight to the point.
Basically my interactions with women are fine, hell at the club I often get approached first (enough times to give me more then plenty of chances). I always turn women down and show disinterest due to my own feelings of inadequacy and it frustrates me.

I think the problems roots stem from porn because all I think about is having sex with the girl, even though we have only just met. On top of this I am very self conscious about my size even though I'm larger then average (you know what I'm referring to). I guess I'm just used to seeing crazy shit on porn which then makes me feel less adequate.

Does anyone experience this?? I need to know that I'm not alone here as I pass up so many opportunities. This might sound dumb but I'm serious

Thanks

YUP! I'm still working towards my college degree (almost there haha!) and live with my parents while working a fairly basic job so I often have feelings of inadequacy compared to my peers around my age. Those things coupled with the addiction to porn definitely gave me the inadequate thoughts and feelings, but what I find helping me break them is to realize that I'm not stuck in the same place I was before and that I'm making progress every day to be the best version of myself. Even if all I do is not watch porn and masturbate during that day I've made progress on improving myself because that was the old, lonely me who did that.

Find things to make you feel good about yourself and slowly you'll start to not feel as inadequate and don't compare yourself to others, compare yourself to the previous you. You said it yourself, girls approach you which gives you plenty of opportunities! Think about the guys that feel like they never get approached or looks of interest, you're already ahead of the game than some guys are! Don't focus on what you think your inadequacies are, focus on having fun and getting to know the girls. Plus for all you know the girl you're talking to might be thinking the same way as you but you don't know that because you yourself don't feel good enough. A lot of girls seem to be insecure these days, so being strong and confident is even more important and potentially attractive.
 
Hi there,
You are very lucky if you are being approached. Normally you have to do the approaching, this is very rare, which says there has to be something to you that women see. Remember women see through facades and lies easily, they just know who you are or rather they feel it. So if you can't believe in yourself, why don't you try believing in the girl that likes you.

Just drop all opinion about yourself, drop that shit. Make the woman laugh, fuck her, repeat.
 
Hey everyone whats up everyone! I'm just going to be straight to the point.
Basically my interactions with women are fine, hell at the club I often get approached first (enough times to give me more then plenty of chances). I always turn women down and show disinterest due to my own feelings of inadequacy and it frustrates me.

I think the problems roots stem from porn because all I think about is having sex with the girl, even though we have only just met. On top of this I am very self conscious about my size even though I'm larger then average (you know what I'm referring to). I guess I'm just used to seeing crazy shit on porn which then makes me feel less adequate.

Does anyone experience this?? I need to know that I'm not alone here as I pass up so many opportunities. This might sound dumb but I'm serious

Thanks
Yep similar...go to the gym and quit PMO and the feelings start to fade, including the "size" concerns.
If its on your mind google image regarding pornstars measuring up...its mostly weird angles, tiny girls, inaccurate measurements special drugs and pumps...used to get called "smalls" in the locker room which got into my head until I realized it was ironic, but yea funny how a perception can mask reality.
 
Hey everyone whats up everyone! I'm just going to be straight to the point.
Basically my interactions with women are fine, hell at the club I often get approached first (enough times to give me more then plenty of chances). I always turn women down and show disinterest due to my own feelings of inadequacy and it frustrates me.

I think the problems roots stem from porn because all I think about is having sex with the girl, even though we have only just met. On top of this I am very self conscious about my size even though I'm larger then average (you know what I'm referring to). I guess I'm just used to seeing crazy shit on porn which then makes me feel less adequate.

Does anyone experience this?? I need to know that I'm not alone here as I pass up so many opportunities. This might sound dumb but I'm serious

Thanks
I can identify with feeling inadequate and frustrated with myself, so you're not alone in this. What do you think you could change in order to get past only thinking about sex with them?
 
I can identify with feeling inadequate and frustrated with myself, so you're not alone in this. What do you think you could change in order to get past only thinking about sex with them?
Im not sure man, but I guess this nofap journey is all part of making a change. Also I think I'm done with going to clubs and stuff, for the most part anyways, I just wanna find some real people.. know what I'm saying.
 
Hi there,
You are very lucky if you are being approached. Normally you have to do the approaching, this is very rare, which says there has to be something to you that women see. Remember women see through facades and lies easily, they just know who you are or rather they feel it. So if you can't believe in yourself, why don't you try believing in the girl that likes you.

Just drop all opinion about yourself, drop that shit. Make the woman laugh, fuck her, repeat.

I dont think so ;)
 
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