Tell me one good reason why i shouldn't quit

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by the promise, Sep 25, 2018.

  1. the promise

    the promise Fapstronaut

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    Is been 15 days and i was super excited and everything was going great and my days were really good but then suddenly everything just turn upside down everything i tried to do i couldn't a lot of frustration like in 5 hours consecutively im tired guys i really was really proud seems like well idknw what to think or do im exahusted and i fdont want to sleep of how upset i am i am a milenial so yea that could be it that im so cry baby
     
  2. Wario32

    Wario32 Fapstronaut
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    Your changing, feelings come and go nothing is permanent . You will have good days and bad days.
    You can go back to fapping or improve your self and make real connections with people.
    Most importantly your dopamine receptors will heal and your find the little things in life more enjoyable.
     
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  3. the promise

    the promise Fapstronaut

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    Thnks warior
     
  4. itdoesn'tmatter

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    NoFap results I have observed (In past 7 months/219 days, I relapsed cummulatively 20 days):
    -More confidence
    -Social anxiety departing swiftly
    -Brain fog almost negligible
    -Better control over my emotions
    -Can hold conversations - fuck man, I can talk now, to anyone, even to my boss, more and more without the wrong kind of fear. I can take criticism - without feeing like the world has ended
    -Self insecurity or low esteem issues/thoughts/fucking way of thinking is leaving.
    -Better outcomes with studies and work (because mind is thinking more clearly, or at least, mind is becoming aware of mistakes)
    -Voice is changing (getting deeper?).

    PMO + FE especially M I think and partially know for a fact has delimited me from thinking about anything else, I guess that is what PMO + FE especially M does

    Now, after having given up PMO + FE for a considerable period of time, I don't have this shame/guilt/stupid shit feeling in my heart all the time. Phew! I can now start thinking - more wholly everyday. Women looking or not looking should be the least of my concerns.

    What could I have done had I not indulged in PMO + FE for the past 10 years. I am getting hungrier to answer this question.

    Rumi said this:
    -The bitterness of patience is the desire of the wise.

    Just trust the process brother, it is worth it. Fight. This moment. And then the next. And then the next. Don't loose sight that your day is going to end. It is a promise. You will grow strong. You will succeed. You will be the greatest version of yourself.

    Fight, brother, fight. It is worth it. Pray I don't loose sight of the same.
     
  5. the promise

    the promise Fapstronaut

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    Hey "it doenst mater" read your post this morning got to admit is fantastic how certain you are i started to analaized everything you said from social anxiety to fogy brain to better at expresion i started to analyzed my self every second i could at work and god toure so rigth i compared my self from when i used to relapse fthan the one that i am now and to be honest they look like 2 different people compleatly different i dint notice until you pointed out i was really strugling yesterday no i dint relapse just sat on the floor really madsad playing with the cats thank you warior and thank you "it doesnt matter" you made me felt that i wasnt figthing alone god bless the both of you and who everes decides to help along it has meant a lot you have no idea thnks bye :)
     
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    the promise Fapstronaut

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    Heyijust in case u thougth i dint read it i did thank you i wrote somthing is up there forgot to prees repond thanks n.n
     
  7. oneaffidavit

    oneaffidavit Fapstronaut

    You shouldn't be asking this question but if you are asking this question, then your life is being controlled by your addiction rather than you controlling your life. Your addiction wants a justification for the cycle to continue because you clearly know about benefits of nofap and benefits of quitting PMO.
     
  8. Legit1

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    I'm going to stick to fapping once a week instead of 1-3 times every day. And let's say at the end of my 7th day and I'm on my 8th -- I won't fap just because I finished my week, I'll just fap if I'm really in need of fapping. Which means I could fap on my 8th day or 9th day before my last fap. Fapping multiple times a day is horrible! It feels good at 1st but then later on I would feel like crap on my 3rd round. It's just not good at all to go multiple times a day. I'm giving up on porn as well 100% forever as well, because about 4 days ago I fapped to porn twice and felt my anxiety spike on my 2nd round. I got angry at myself and told myself that that was the last time I'm watching porn. So if I do fap some other time, I'll just think about my times I've had action.

    People will disagree with me on this, and that's okay. But it's a major improvement that will lead to 48 or less faps a year instead of 365+ a year. Every time I don't fap for 2 days I already start feeling much better in terms of feeling sharp and anxiety levels decrease.
     
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  9. Pastoress

    Pastoress Fapstronaut

    You’re talking about drastically reducing the number of time you PMO. You have great ambition.

    Be gentle with yourself too. How will you treat yourself if you relapse without meeting your goal? Can you be kind to yourself? Going from 14-21 down to 1 (or for a month you’re talking from 60-90 down to 4 or 5)...if you don’t get it on the first several tries, you are in good company.

    It doesn’t matter how high anyone’s counter is, each of us is one decision away from resetting.
     
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  10. Legit1

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    I'll be disappointed if I fail my goal if I'll be honest, but I hear that plenty of people fail when fighting the strong urges. But I've failed multiple times and I gotta give it my all to not fail anymore, no excuses. I've fapped so much for 4 years once I got out of high school due to anxiety developing and then getting stronger. Little did I know that I was feeding my anxiety by fapping. I'm on my 2nd day right now without fapping and I feel okay in terms of anxiety and confidence.

    Fapping 2 or 3 times a day is dangerous. If that sounds like an exaggeration, my bad, but I'm not trying to exaggerate. I would feel tired throughout the day and motivation is always low. Fapping like how I have had affected me in being productive due to anxiety and low energy levels even though I would eat 3 meals, drink water only, and exercise. Exercise was becoming annoying due to low energy I had, but I've still done it. Playing music pumped me up and gave me adrenaline rush, but that's not okay because I'm relying on music to make up for my low energy. I'm 22 years old and this isn't normal for someone my age. When I was in high school I would fap once every other day or so and I remember I was a happy, energetic, and confident person who got things done. So when I say I'm going to give it my all to stay 100% on my goal, I mean it.
     
  11. Pastoress

    Pastoress Fapstronaut


    Awesome!!! Celebrate your successes. You already know how difficult these changes are. No need to beat yourself up if you don’t meet your goal right away.

    Enjoy your progress. You’re already making progress toward your goal. :)

    PS I wish I had known at 22 that fapping was contributing to my low energy and social anxiety. Ah well. I know now. Keep up the good work and enjoy it! :) :) :)
     
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