Hi all. I'm really looking for some stories, good or bad about your experience of telling your other half about your struggle or success with nofap. At the beginning of my journey 140 or so days ago, I had an almighty row with my long term girlfriend and said some horrible things while the wrong side of a good few beers. The following day I apologised and filled with regret started some soul searching which lead me to this place. I always knew I had a problem with pmo and erotica literature for over 15 years but only once I had watched the TED talks did things click into place. Then and there I decided to stop pmo and try to fix myself. This way I could potentially be the kind of boyfriend, and one day husband, i knew she deserved. We had not been as physical with each other in recent years as we have both been struggling with weight issues and self image. But I wanted to fix that and this seemed to offer the answers. We are winning the weight battle, I am winning with pmo but the relationship seems to be treading water. The first weeks were tough, really tough, I was and still am in hard mode, but it got easier, all the while in the back of my head I was thinking I should tell her, she deserves to know. I'm just worried about the crushing hurt it would cause her to know of my nightly deceit and the fear of loosing her from opening up with the truth. But surely she wonders why I have not initiated anything, I also wonder why she hasn't either. After the 90 day mark, The longer this process has gone on the more I was telling myself that soon enough we would be physical and things would be fixed. This way I'd not have to hurt her and the relationship would begin to repair. Basically I've not felt like initiating anything, partly because I didn't want to fall of this path of no O, as I was really beginning to like myself again, but also I fear slipping or even rejection from her. Also I have been going through a promotion and series of interviews at work that could change our financial lifestyle for the better, and the extra Man powers I've been feeling have made me believe I owe these powers to nofap, so didn't want to jeopardise interviews or meetings by having sex and loosing powers. To put it bluntly we are both in a cohabiting sexless relationship and I fear we are drifting apart. She is my soul mate and I love her, I know she loves me, but we are both isolated people and I want that closeness back. If anyone can offer advice or tales of how they managed this I would be forever grateful.