Temptation and discipline

I think that a healthy lifestyle can add to the experience, but not essential. There are people in wheelchairs that aren't that healthy physically. But they can have healthy, productive lives otherwise. There are people with cancer that are very centered emotionally and spiritually. But one thing these people have in common is that they are extremely honest. They see their situation not as a situation, but as part of life. They have a grasp on reality. Whereas we are constantly living in our heads. Thinking about the future and worrying. Fearful of the future because of past experiences. We are constantly bullshitting ourselves about what is really important. Constantly inventing ways to escape ourselves. I think fapping is a way of running away from reality. If you were to really face your fears head on, we would find that they aren't real. And if you could break down that wall of fear, you would see things as they really are. Maybe we should start a group. Where the members are familiar with each others fears. Even talking about your fears is an accomplishment for some. Maybe we could dare a member to take a step toward facing something that terrifies the hell out of them. A little one-upmanship if you will. I would like to be able to spontaneously approach women. But I take myself too seriously and I'm scared of rejection. The reality is that rejection is part of life. But I've been programmed to see it as a dreaded thing to avoid at all costs. But the more I do it, the less serious I start taking myself and start seeing it as fun. There are lots of things about us that need "rebooting." Now don't be stayin' on this computer too long, Lemonquack. I know you. lol

 

the bad habits are going hand in hand. in my case alcohol was a part of my porn habit - first drinking afterwards pmo. so i stopped drinking. i had no other choice.

discipline is very important - this challenge is the best way to train it.