Tempted into buying sex

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by GoldenExp2020, Sep 30, 2019.

  1. GoldenExp2020

    GoldenExp2020 New Fapstronaut

    The last time I had sex was 3 years ago. So you can say I’m In a sex slump. My porn addiction has returned during this sex drought. One of my friends live near a prostitution track. Most of the women in this area are not bad looking. They talk to me sometimes. I know it’s their job to get me to buy. There’s five girls I really like and want to have sex with. I’m afraid. I never paid for sex off the street. I need some advice.
  2. romeolima

    romeolima Fapstronaut

    I can't speak for everyone's experience but it's unlikely to make you feel better about yourself or your situation.

    Whilst the idea might seem tempting the reality will not live up to your expectation. If you have feeling of depression or shame following masturbation then these are likely to be heightened following paid for sex.

    Sex it itself is not everything, you would be better trying to find meaningful relationships with women through other ventures. Ultimately meaningful relationship will lead to meaningful sex.
  3. MuscularSherlockHolmes

    MuscularSherlockHolmes Fapstronaut

    My advice: Don't risk your mental, physical and financial well being. It's never worth it.
  4. diaspar

    diaspar Fapstronaut

    Is there a way you can avoid physically seeing those women?

    Out of sight, out of mind.
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  5. bluemax4

    bluemax4 Fapstronaut

    Don't do it! You'll be out of pocket and I guarantee you won't feel any better afterwards. You also risk getting an STD or being picked up by the cops.
  6. Ajikan

    Ajikan Fapstronaut

    From what I've seen on this forum most people that had sex with prostitutes regretted it. You could get a disease too.
  7. thelitfit1

    thelitfit1 Fapstronaut

    I regretted my first and only paid experience. I'd stay away!
  8. alexg1709

    alexg1709 Fapstronaut

    Don't do it.. You will regret it afterwards one way or another
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  9. Homelander

    Homelander Fapstronaut

    my snippet from another thread:

    I visited many hookers in my life and had many great exciting sex moments. Even when I suffered with PIED, it was still worth it.
    However, I would only advise seeing a hooker if you:
    1. Are single
    2. can do it legally
    3. don't have to spend a small fortune on a average looking woman.
    4. don't have to go to criminal dangerous neighborhoods (I once got mugged myself).
    5. are not having religious/moral concerns
    6. can avoid underage or forced women
    7. Can have safe sex with condoms
    8. can have sex in your car or their room instead of taking them to your home.
    9. Can do it without being recognized and caught by family or friends.

    The last time I visited a hooker was 1.5 years ago and I often still fantasize about this encounter.
    But since I'm on a 90 day hard challenge, there will be no masturbation for me and absolutely no more hookers.
    I'm done with that expensive phase.
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  10. Blade-rnr

    Blade-rnr Fapstronaut

    Don't do it. You'll regret it and if you ever end up in a long-term relationship you'll want to be able to be honest with your future spouse. Just because some have done so without regrets doesn't mean you will. Your drive to find someone to have sex with is natural. Use it to find a woman to have a meaningful relationship with.

    Word of advice... Treat yourself as if you were someone you cared about. Visualize the kind of man you want to be and take steps to start reaching towards that potential.
  11. rohanpuch

    rohanpuch Fapstronaut

    Don't fund an industry that encourages this instead of helping individuals just because "consenting adults". That's bullshit, that's why we have parents and a voting age:
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  12. Infrasapiens

    Infrasapiens Fapstronaut

    Dude the last time I had sex was never, and I would rather stay that way than to hire a prostitute.
  13. Homelander

    Homelander Fapstronaut

    I know exactly what you mean and why but how do can a man live like an incell/celibate whilst doing this nofap mode for god knows how long?

    I havent had real sex for a while now and doing this nofap thing feels good and not that difficult with my new mindset.
    But I'm going to be really honest, some more months and I will need to have real sex. Either from a hot tinderdate or an escort. I prefer real loving sex, but an escort will also do if the urges keep pilling up like this. Besides my balls are hurting like hell every day, like they got struck by a football.

    If things turn like this, I will most likely schedule a monthly escort for myself whilst abstaining from porn and fapping.
  14. Digger2

    Digger2 Fapstronaut

    Been there, done that, thought it was safe - wrong. Find another way to bring you joy.
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  15. Hold it in

    Hold it in Fapstronaut

    Keep your money. If you are that intent on spending money to make you feel better, go donate to a worthy cause. Lots of need out there brother
  16. mark_peter

    mark_peter Fapstronaut

    Just don't do it.
    Even though this is a dumb advice because it's simple and not really mind exploding:
    Just don't do it.
    Have some fucking self respect for yourself and stop yourself from doing it. It's just not worth it and it's definitely doesn't gonna solve ur problem since this is going way deeper than this quick fix.
  17. Veritech

    Veritech Fapstronaut

    Don't pay for sex.

    People are human beings; not a combination of body parts.

    Hang in there and apply yourself. You can get out of your slump without resorting to bribery and exploitation.
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  18. Blade-rnr

    Blade-rnr Fapstronaut

    You know, fapping without porn is always an option for blue balls. As long as you're not doing it compulsively it's not considered a relapse. It's certainly preferable to hookers. Hookers are where people turn when their porn addiction spirals out or control. It might sound nice now, but that's your addiction talking.

    Go on some dates with real women, learn how to relationship. Put sex on the back burner. If you're not willing to deal with a pregnancy you shouldn't be having sex.
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  19. Iwanttobefree1

    Iwanttobefree1 Fapstronaut

    How about going out more on dates and where you can meet women, and spend your money on that instead of spending it on an escort. It be much more worth it long term if you do that.
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