Tempted to relapse after a breakup

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  1. Action

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    Hey guys,
    I'm not sure if this is the proper section to post this, but I need some help. I just had a breakup today and feel really bad...so bad that I feel tempted to relapse as a way to cope with my sadness. I don't want to give up my goal to quit PM though, so I feel that I need some words of encouragement. This was my first breakup to my very first relationship, so I never knew how bad it actually feels until now.
     
  2. Leader of ME

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    You will relapse .
    Though, you got to fight after that .

    It's always the same story with that . Your are not so sad, than hurt . Relapse will happen, believe me . Then, you have to react though and let the pass be pass .

    It's so difficult not to go in wrong ways now . But if you do go, you got to return longer if one day you decide to follow the right way again .
     
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  3. thinking_differently

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    Do you think releasing is going to make the situation better?
     
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  4. Action

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    It would be fun for a moment, but it will likely make me feel bad about myself in the long term. Not worth it.
     
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  5. this is pretty terrible "advice". there's no wisdom to be gained from this post.

    dear Action....... disregard this guy's remarks. you don't have to do what he is saying. in fact, he might as well be one of your demons whispering in your ear. you'll get through this and if you avoid relapsing, you will even get through this with a good deal of self-respect and perhaps reinforce the strength that you are better than that. you will find the person for you much faster without porn.
     
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  6. RollerCoaster

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    You got it, so stay strong!
    I relapsed yesterday and feel weak now. Don't be like me.
     
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  8. thinking_differently

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    I have found the following useful:
    1. Getting good sleep for a day or two.
    2. Listening to your favourite music.(You could avoid the ones you listened to during your patch-up, since we have a tendency to associate music to the moods we heard them in)
    3. There will be thoughts of hope, and “second chance”. Don’t entertain them. This is the hardest bit I feel.

    Be aware man.
    You got this,
    It ain’t worth it.
     
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  9. Metis07

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    Shit happens, but don’t make PMO your coping mechanism for it.
    If you pass hard time without pmo (boose etc.) and for 100% accepting it as it is, it will be easier then.
     
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  10. rb95

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    Stay strong king. Find another outlet of some sort to take your mind off it. You can do it.
     
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  11. He wasn't giving any advice. He was just telling the truth. Moreover, he didn't encourage anything.

    "Tempted to relapse", "I feel like I need some words of encouragement". When you start to think like that, you already relapsed. It's just a matter of time.

    What you are doing here is telling this dude what he already knows. Not really useful either.
    You already know what you have to do. More like "not do". Relapsing isn't worth it, and it will make things worse. But you already know that right? Just do your best. That's all. Stay strong.
     
  12. Leader of ME

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    For real . For sure .
     
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  13. What the fuck is up with all the boners for negativity? It’s like a plague.
     
  14. Gonna go draw that now.... heh. Weird mental image.
     
  15. IGY

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    You are going to draw an erect penis? o_O Erotic art?
     
  16. Action

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    Thanks for the encouragement, guys! Fortunately, I haven't relapsed, and have no intention of doing so anytime soon. I miss my Ex dearly, but I guess it was not meant to be. Hope to find the love of my life, someday. Until then, I'm going to spend more time with family and friends, as well as go on dates.
     
  17. Love2LongBoard

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    Way to reach out when you needed it. That's what this is all about.
     
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  18. Hell yeah. This made my day.

    Bravo! :D
     
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  19. rb95

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    way to be honest and identify a vulnerable time for you. Keep up the great work!
     
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