PA returned home from work. He’s tense distant and cold. We talked briefly this morning and he doesn’t know if he wants the marriage. He thinks he may have done too much damage and it may be too much work for him . We’re talking a 40yr porn history. We’ve been together for almost 20 years. I have no idea what’s going on in his mind. He says he’s been porn free since D-day in September. Is it his shame and realization of how much damage he’s done? Is it that he just doesn’t want the relationship? Is he afraid of dealing with his deep seated issues? I DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THIS SITUATION! I don’t know what questions to ask, or if I should ask anything? He’s attended 4 SA meetings and is planning on attending 5 more this week. He also has an appt with a specialist.Arg...this is so overwhelming. Ideally what I would like is for his for him to say is , “I love you, I’m sorrry, please forgive me, I want our marriage to work and I’m going to do whatever it takes. Are you up for it and will you give me a chance?” Maybe I’m living in a dream world. I’m totally lost in never land..