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Terrible sexual performance with a woman after a few months of dating

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by EnslaveTheSperm, Nov 2, 2018.

  1. EnslaveTheSperm

    EnslaveTheSperm Fapstronaut

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    Hi guys, i am a man and a year and a half ago had my first sexual partner ( a woman ; keep in mind that i am heterosexual ). I lost my virginity with her ( she wasn't a virgin ) and everything was going smoothly, but the thing is, after about 3 months of dating and having sex pretty frequently ( almost everyday and sometimes even 5 times a day, she was something like a nympho i think but not that extreme ) i started to feel an insane urge to nut right when the sexual intercourse starts. I could start penetrating her and literally 3 strokes in i couldn't control myself and had to pull out immediately when before i could handle easily 30 to 40 mins of sex. I don't know why this happens to me and would appreciate some help if this happened to someone before. One more thing i should add is that after starting to have frequent sexual relations with her i began to masturbate even more everyday and would sometimes find myself with troubles to finish alone and had to think of things we did before to have an orgasm. I don't know if this problem is related to masturbation or watching porn but as i am currently starting to reboot i would like you guys to share your advice if any of you has been in the same situation. Thank you all in advance and good luck keeping your hands of your pants ;)
     
  2. When you are first with a real person and very sensitive you can finish very quickly. The excitement of being with her is also large in your mind and makes it fast. In time this calms down which is normal.
    If you are still M'ing during the relationship and doing it more you will start to lose sensitivity and have a hard time finishing.
    Abstaining from PMO or at the least from PM will help get you back to normal.
     
  3. EnslaveTheSperm

    EnslaveTheSperm Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your reply. I think you missunderstood what i said ( maybe its my fault because of my poor english, im french so its not my birth tongue ) but as you said i was at first very sensitive and finished fast. After a while it started to calm down but my issue is that after sometime of being able to fully control myself i felt extremely sensitive, even more than my first time and couldnt last for more than a few strokes which was pretty annoying for both of us and i dont know why.
     
  4. Dorian1975

    Dorian1975 Fapstronaut

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    Wow!

    This happened to me too. I think it has something to do with control. The girl I was with was very very experienced and I wasn’t. The funny thing is I was married for many years before I started with the new girl and had no problems.

    I ended up going down on her a lot, in the long it didn’t help. I honestly think it’s a control/trust issue. Find a girl where you are taking the lead, may be that will help. If it’s making you feel inadequate move on, trust me.
     

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