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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by Kratos_GOW, Jun 13, 2019.
Congrats on the new rank Spartan!
Way to go!
Check in Day 1(35)
I have been feeling these urges to end my pmo streak. And to go back to old habits. And I have realized that for me, pmo, alcohol and pot are all things I used to change how I feel in the moment instead of doing what I really want to do, which is to change my position in life. To change how I am living each day. I don’t like the situation I am in with my work or my family. And I’ve been stuck in this position for a few years. And I want it to change. And that means I need to make some really carefully thought out plans. And I need to make some changes that might take several months or a year to complete. And I see now that this is what ending pmo was actually about.
I see now that this is what I am facing after the 100 days. And that I will definitely end my streak if I don’t move in a new direction with my life. Because eventually, the pain and suffering will wear me down and I’ll have a moment of weakness and I’ll pmo to cope.
I am very happy that @fg4795 stayed in the challenge after the 100 days, and has now 50 days past the challenge. Because I needed to see someone who was ahead of me and learn from them. He talks about his studies and how he is still working there to improve. Because 100 days doesn’t fix all of life problems. It just fixes us so we are better able if we choose to fix our life problems.
I am waking up each day now and forcing myself to face my life and do something about it instead of just finding ways to cope with it. I have two choices friends. Continue coping or take action on the situation.
It is many months that I have been living this new life. And it’s easy to forget how horrible life was before I started this challenge. I was hiding from all the things that bothered me about my life. Thinking that it was okay. That I was okay. I wasn’t. And I’m not. But I’m going to be.
May the gods smile upon you all. You all are more powerful with each day. Stay strong Spartans!
Yeah my friend, that's the point in all of this.
Nofap is a tool not a magic wand. If you do it, you can have more energies, better focus but then it's up to you how to use them.
I mean if you use the extra time that avoiding P gives you just to watch tv you have just found a new addiction.
If you use it to learn/exercise then you will find a new way of living.
If you just hope that your life will change because of your streak then you will be disappointed.
I mean joining Nofap is like signing for a gym to lose weight.
The gym gives you all the tools you need to lose weight, but if you don't go you will never lose weight just because you signed.
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Sounds to me like you are making progress my friend. Significant progress! You are at a crossroads, and the key is, you no longer wish to cope with your situation; you wish to CHANGE your situation, and that's where the progress is.
You realize what you need to do, and now you are moving forward, engaged in a long-term commitment. You are focused and disciplined, and you are working on accomplishing this long-term goal.
I read your post, twice, and it seems like we face many of the same challenges.
Last night I drank 4 beers and 3 shots, and I felt very tempted to call up my former pot dealer. I came VERY close to calling him. The reason? Pot is a huge sexual trigger for me. Besides making money, it's what I used to live for (sad but true): chase women, get high, have sex and/or PMO.
After 4 months of avoiding women, I'm now re-connecting with them, via dating, which feels exciting, but now I realize that women and pot used to go together, i.e. they were a package deal. I didn't do one without the other. Ever! And right now I really miss the dopamine rush of that package deal.
The truth is, I'm not used to dating while being sober and honest. It's a big lifestyle change, and I actually miss the gaming and the whoring and the deception. Change is tough. There's a void and I want to fill it with drugs, fantasy, and lies. I want dating to be all fun and games, but I'm a new man, and I'm determined to explore and enjoy my life, sober and honest.
I've got so much going for me right now, and, like you, I realize I can change; that I MUST change; that I do not have to accept my old ways. And last night I chose to keep moving forward, exploring life head on, without the aid of PMO, pot, or testosterone.
Day (1)54 checking in
Im starting again and relapsing again, but I will not stop until I will over my mind.
Check in. Happy valentines day everyone
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This is great to see!
New rank tomorrow my friend.
i think im sick tho maybe a flu or something idk, but i refused to take a medicine or see the doctor, since its not that bad,i think i want it cured in natural way, i hope a good sleep + vitamin will do
@Kratos_GOW im reaching a new rank sir hehe
I relapsed today. I was edging alot.
But that's it i have satisfied myself and now I'm ready to look positively towards tomorrow so I'm thinking what I'm doing with myself is not only hurts me now but also affect future.
From now on I'm going to reorganize my routine and going to stick it no matter what happens what I'm feeling what my mind is telling me to do.
One more point I want to include is that i will regularly do meditation atleast 1/2 hour a day without fail.
In these 2-3 day I did nothing means I have exams in coming month and hardly 20 days are remaining and what I'm doing fapping and this is the exam for which I'm preparing from last 6 months so you see how strong is this addiction in my life and its really a ringing bell for me because this exam will change my circumstances and what I'm doing nothing but passing time with p. So from now on atleast for 20 days until my exam I'm going to be in descipline.
So day 0 for me
Thanks for the encouragement Bro
Congratulations @hollyman on achieving rank! Thank you for your daily support and encouragement my friend.