I'm a middle-aged guy who's been using porn since my early 20's. The impact has ranged from self-loathing after uncontrolled binges to a 'meh' attitude, due to a delusion that fapping to porn 3-4 x a week at bedtime is a normal thing. My turn-around happened this week. I'd been reading spiritual books to satisfy my growing need for a deeper purpose, and I read The Seat of the Soul (Zukav). His chapter on addictions was a wake up call. He said that when we watch porn or engage in compulsive sex, we are preying on souls who are weaker than us. Whoa! Would I ever make a porn film? Would I appear in a cam room and do sex acts? No! What state of mind would I have to be in to do so? I'd have to be a weak, shattered soul. But in the comfort of home I can watch them and still stay me, provided I avoid any compassion for these men and women. Well, truth and compassion came forth. I immediately searched 'stopping porn', found NoFap, and eagerly signed up. I thought I was alone. At no time in my life have friends spoken about porn or quitting it. It's clearly a taboo. Here I see 1000s of brothers (and some sisters) trying to work through it all, talking about it openly, where the light will heal. I am inspired and already feel that I'm with you and one of you.