The Accidental Fapstronaut

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by IntegralSoul, Sep 11, 2019.

  1. IntegralSoul

    IntegralSoul Fapstronaut

    I'm a middle-aged guy who's been using porn since my early 20's. The impact has ranged from self-loathing after uncontrolled binges to a 'meh' attitude, due to a delusion that fapping to porn 3-4 x a week at bedtime is a normal thing.

    My turn-around happened this week. I'd been reading spiritual books to satisfy my growing need for a deeper purpose, and I read The Seat of the Soul (Zukav). His chapter on addictions was a wake up call. He said that when we watch porn or engage in compulsive sex, we are preying on souls who are weaker than us. Whoa!

    Would I ever make a porn film? Would I appear in a cam room and do sex acts? No! What state of mind would I have to be in to do so? I'd have to be a weak, shattered soul. But in the comfort of home I can watch them and still stay me, provided I avoid any compassion for these men and women. Well, truth and compassion came forth. I immediately searched 'stopping porn', found NoFap, and eagerly signed up.

    I thought I was alone. At no time in my life have friends spoken about porn or quitting it. It's clearly a taboo. Here I see 1000s of brothers (and some sisters) trying to work through it all, talking about it openly, where the light will heal. I am inspired and already feel that I'm with you and one of you.
     
  2. romlel

    romlel Fapstronaut

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    Welcome!

    You did you the first step, great!
    Don't hesitate to ask for advices.
     
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  3. hitnmis

    hitnmis Fapstronaut

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    Welcome.
    I tried failed, tried again failed.
    I've felt the strength of being free
    Im here I will make it.
    Good luck to you.
     
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  4. IntegralSoul

    IntegralSoul Fapstronaut

    Thanks for that, Romiel!
     
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  5. Tiger uppercut!

    Tiger uppercut! Moderator Assistant
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    Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  6. rafael33

    rafael33 Fapstronaut

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    Welcome to the Nofap community.
    The NO PMO journey is not easy but worth the effort.
    The community will support you.
    Maybe you want to make some commitment - not to the community but to yourself.
     
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  7. IntegralSoul

    IntegralSoul Fapstronaut

    That ray of light, freedom, that you have experienced, is what I am going for. Let's step in there!
     
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  8. IntegralSoul

    IntegralSoul Fapstronaut

    Hello Rafael
    Thanks for the welcome and the inspiring suggestion. I've now put in my status that I'm going for 90 days, hard mode. It is a commitment for sure!
     
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  9. Life's Journey

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    Hi IntegralSoul, welcome, and wishing you loads of strength and good luck on your journey away from porn! Realizing that porn has a very negative impact on both yourself and others is an important insight. And joining here will hopefully help you to quit. Keep up the good work!
     
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  10. Coffee Candy

    Coffee Candy Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

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    Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

    Then secondly I just strongly advise you to be active on your profile(as there quite a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

    People (are beginning to) love communicating in the profilesection..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal, we could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

    Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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  11. twistedshadows23

    twistedshadows23 Fapstronaut

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    Welcome! Message me if you ever wanna talk man. You got this!
     
  12. IntegralSoul

    IntegralSoul Fapstronaut

    I found good advice and encouragement from reading your posts. You wrote to someone "you did the right choice coming here!! Flood your mind with rebooting material daily : D". This is exactly what I've been doing since joining, flooding my mind with good stuff on this site.
     
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  13. romlel

    romlel Fapstronaut

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    Excellent, that's the way. Level up your understanfing of your body and of pmo then create your new life : )
     
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