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The beginning of my journey

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Nebukadnessar, Jan 2, 2018.

  1. Nebukadnessar

    Nebukadnessar New Fapstronaut

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    I began noFap today after realizing I'm wasting many hours a day, drooling after images of artificial women.

    Thinking about the short lives we all have, such a waste is unforgivable. I have lost my self-control, self-respect and the effectiveness that I used to have because of this toxic habit. I used to be energetic and get things done, even having time for meeting friends in the process. I used to have varying hobbies.

    Now as I've increased my consumption of pornographic material, I've become a low-energy person who is incapable of running daily errands smoothly and who is constantly sleep-deprived and late for things. It's horrible.

    The root cause for developing such an addiction is that I've had a deep need for emotional and physical closeness in a relationship. Unfortunately I haven't had a possibility for such a connection because I'm extremely picky as far as dating goes. Thus, I've ended up feeling empty inside and I've started to fantasize about women who'd be exactly the way my tastes dictate, and start to build idealized, imaginary images in my mind.

    It began like this. Then I got into the habit of seeking these certain, well-defined appearances online and spending preposterous amounts of time fapping over images where such things could be fount. Also videos and games. I outsourced my feeling of being dead inside to online pornography and sensual novelty seeking :)

    I have stupendous amounts of things I SHOULD be doing. My studies are taking damage, my social life is taking damage and my sense of self-worth is taking damage. This is horrible.

    Now I've begun the noFap journey. My first goal is to spend three days without giving in to urges. I'll begin by cutting down on the downtime I have and try to engage more on different activities. Maybe I could start visiting the library to study, that way I couldn't give in to fapping. Spending more time in public places might help along the journey. Also I plan to cut down on my meaningless online time. It's so easy to search pornography online, without even noticing it before it's too late.

    Cheers, Nebukadnessar
     
  2. Hey Nebukadnessar,
    Welcome to the NoFap community!
    It's great that you're starting to plan ways to avoid porn. If you haven't already, take a look at this information on rebooting. I have found it really helpful in my journey to recovery.
    Feel free to message me with questions or if you want to talk.
    Again, Welcome!
     
  3. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

    The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your currentstrategies for combating the enemycalled PMO?
     
  4. One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals.

    I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

    Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

    @2525 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/147264/
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    @Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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    @Dragonnlife Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/136148
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    @I_can_and_I_will Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/138959/
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    @weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/
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    @MLMVSS Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/142945/
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    @Struggle Bug Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/
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    @BigDawg913 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
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    @Sunshadow Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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    @kropo82 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
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    @tet2vd Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513
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    @Protagoras Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
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    @Tomoya Okazaki Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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    @DavidGibson Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143325/
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    @Euklid Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146663/
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    @BreatheDeeply Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139097/
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    @LiquidShoes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/134044/
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    @Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
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    @Former_CD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/87827/
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    @PatrickR Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/
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    There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

    This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

    - L
     
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  5. Hey @Nebukadnessar ,

    There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope).

    Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary.

    1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program.

    2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery.

    Learn the NoFap Program
    The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used.

    They are:

    You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum.

    Get Involved with the Community
    The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others.

    I'm nobody important around here. Just a normal user with no magic powers.

    But, I can:

    • Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH
    • Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles
    • Pick a forum and make sure evvery post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group.
    • Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread.
    Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

    - L

    PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.
     

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