"... is to become an amazing person." - Mark Manson [https://markmanson.net/how-to-find-the-one] Thoughts anyone? I like it. It's counter-intuitive yet it feels true to me. Manson says earlier in the article that "[...] everyone wants a perfect partner, but few people want to be the perfect partner." I know this is just one view out of many views on relationships that may or may not ring true for some people and there's plenty of room to misunderstand Mark's meaning. What does it mean to become an "amazing person" or a "perfect partner"? One key difference, according to Mark, is neediness. Are you going to become amazing for yourself or is it just another tactic to get people to like and sleep with you? Like attracts like.