The Creation of a 'Sister' Site for Women Fappers

Discussion in 'NoFap Technical Support and Feedback' started by Buzz Lightyear, Apr 17, 2017.

  1. Buzz Lightyear

    Buzz Lightyear Fapstronaut

    Hi Alexander and Team,

    First of all, thanks for a great facility. Besides having sub-forums for mature single heterosexual men, is it possible to make a separate Nofap site for women. It seems this cursed affliction knows no boundaries these days [porn, not women of course]. You could keep the color scheme for Nofap Man blue, and the Nofap Female site could be pink!

    Thanks for your consideration,
    Buzz Lightyear.:)
    Last edited: Apr 17, 2017
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  2. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

    This is not being inclusive. I don't want this place being more of a sausage fest more than it already is.
  3. Are you nostalgic for colored vs. whites drinking fountains as well? This is literally how you sound: A younger woman has challenged me, send all of
    them to the kitchen!

    Get a grip. Not that kind though ;):rolleyes:

    Alexander and Team I vote purple!!!!
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  4. Buzz Lightyear

    Buzz Lightyear Fapstronaut

    OK, I shall try to keep this civil.

    Wouldn't you rather talk to other women about your sexual addictions as opposed to men? I know that I am not really interested in discussing this with women at all, which I'd imagine goes for a fair few of the men here also. In my opinion, it could add to an unsavory 'salacious' element, which is the last thing people need here.

    Does the concept of propriety not mean anything to you?
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  5. Wait, wait! HOLD ON. If there I'll run it. Yeah case closed, all the single ladies follow me @bunnyheartbeat @Tesslynne yous help. Need new Mod team. Can my BF come too? He will starve without me since I'm leaving the kitchen ~
  6. Buzz Lightyear

    Buzz Lightyear Fapstronaut

    Well, you have the simple ideas of inclusiveness and equality over-riding everything else. It is like a moral crusade. But there are other things to consider such as propriety. I wonder if you even know what that means. Think of an elderly gentlemen, such as perhaps your grandfather. Would you want to discuss every sordid detail about your life to him? No, of course you wouldn't. These intimate details, you'd reserve for a close friend.

    The problem seems to be the anonymity of the internet and social media. First, it erodes the development of close friendships. Second, it undermines a sense of shame and propriety simply because we are anonymous... like a disembodied mind. But this feeling is crucial to recovery if you are wanting to regain sexual purity.
    @Buzz Lightyear lighten up. How are you going to learn anything about the opposite sex if this becomes a complete
    "sausage fest"? The nurses do not appreciate your ass-pinching. :rolleyes:
  8. I'm actually really interested in the "moral crusade" aspect. Joking aside, you do realize that crusades are notorious for being...well bloodbaths?

    Hey if I was the only woman here I'd be happy because fuck porn. But as for your concern over our...feminine sensibilities...the male users aren't to blame but the porn industry. We need help just like everyone else and many women are still hiding their addiction.
  9. Buzz Lightyear

    Buzz Lightyear Fapstronaut

    I do not want to 'learn' anything about the female sex here. It is simply salacious for a man to read about a woman's sexual problems.

    səˈlāSHəs/pornographic, obscene, indecent, crude, lewd, vulgar, dirty, filthy; More
    erotic, titillating, arousing, suggestive, sexy, risqué, ribald, smutty, bawdy;
    informalporn, porno, blue, XXX;
    "salacious writing"
  10. Also I'm afraid you are in the margin majority. 40+ is as high as the age forums go, gramps. The fact I'm talking to you at all is a feat in a self. The younger generations is using porn much sooner. Why talk to you when I could talk to hundreds of fapstronauats my own age group?
  11. So what should the color scheme for the oldtimer sister site be? Gray?

    You are clearly religious or need to make religious friends. There are religion groups here.
    But most users are in my age group, a woke generation. I'm afraid your outdated beliefs on female sexuality will still be challenged, Bible thumper. It's been fun!

    p.s. Just don't read our journals/threads then. No one is forcing you to.
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  12. What would that make the other site? A hole fest? :p
  13. Icyweb

    Icyweb Fapstronaut

    Has HopefulChristian been hacked by @Deadlihood, or is this spilling over from another thread/PM?

    @Buzz Lightyear I don't think a separate site needs to be set up for women, but it would be good to have some extra settings on here. I'd like it if there were a little checkbox before posting a thread/comment that hides it from the view of either males or females. Some material is sensitive, like you say, and people should be able to choose whether or not people of the opposite sex see and comment on it. There could also be a personal setting, which would block posts from the opposite sex from being visible to you. Of course, people could get around this by logging out, but it would weed out the majority of casual undesired readers. I have no idea how much time and money would need to go into something like that, though.
  14. Buzz Lightyear

    Buzz Lightyear Fapstronaut

    @Icyweb all very sensible ideas. It's getting a bit of a 'social media' feel to it... but then maybe I'm just an old fogey who should retire to my little corner of Nofap.:D

    I like your signature. The creation of distance between you and the impulse. It's something I am working on. I will watch a complete game of rugby before revisiting Nofap.

    I think my problem is I do not get a notification when replies are posted on a thread in which I participated. I didn't like getting the email notifications, so I think I turned that function off. I then use the 'New Posts' function, which is indiscriminate.
    Last edited: Apr 17, 2017
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  15. Deadlihood

    Deadlihood Fapstronaut

    Who's Deadlihood? This is Thug Life.
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  16. Poor Alexander's running on donations. Another site would be tough to keep up, since female fappers (who come to NoFap) are much less than us males. Unless you're willing to pay for the bandwidth. Haha.
  17. IggyIshness

    IggyIshness Fapstronaut

    They should just make a subdomain ( or something lol
    Or is it too ghetto?
  18. They could. But in all honesty I think we've all come together as a community to share our problems on this one site. I find a lot of the so-called "problems" they have with a shared site rather petty.

    Problem : No privacy between female rebooters

    Solution : There's a section for females, and any female can personally message the other after a generic thread title is made to further solve this. There's even female AP threads. If it's difficult to find female AP's in the main forum. I highly doubt the success rate will increase in a standalone website.

    Problem: (Quoted) It is salacious for a man to read a woman's problem

    "Answer": There are plenty of women who come here and search for men's problems because their boyfriends are experiencing problems. Why isn't it fair for men to do so as well? They may be worried about their female partner, and I don't think it's wrong to learn about it so they know what to do in the future. That was sort of a double standard statement and I think we all need to be mature and come to grips that we're a recovery site, catered to helping everyone recover. No gender specifically.

    Problem: Talking about inclusiveness & anonymity

    "Answer": Like I mentioned before, many people join threads that peak their interest. If someone posts about a certain fetish, those with the similar problem will join and there's the option to personally message the OP of the thread. I have had many people personally message me and are good friends with me now on Social Media / personal phone number.

    TLDR; A lot of the "problems" that the OP of the thread is claiming are a bit redundant and I'm not trying to add fuel to the fire or start a war, but I think we've got most of that covered already.
  19. Buzz Lightyear

    Buzz Lightyear Fapstronaut

    Yes, it seems I'm just a fuddy duddy with a foot in the old world. What are considered old-fashioned values by the mass of people today, used to be thought of as timeless virtues. 'Tis the way of the world, I can not expect too much for myself. I guess it is the pedagogue in me that would want to be an influence in some small way.....

    Here's a thought, or more an observation. Perhaps many men confusedly retreated into porn in the face of the onslaught of the feminist revolution we experienced in the past generation. Then look at the manosphere that developed in reaction to that... an underground, a resistance of sorts, that sees masculinity fighting back. I would say there would be more than a few men here, who in the struggle to reclaim their manhood, do not want to see yet another sphere swamped with feminist ideology. Sometimes a man just needs his man cave.

    Am I now a heretic?:cool:
    Last edited: Apr 18, 2017
  20. Well you have to understand that the times are changing too. And I do agree that we all want some form of retreat, but honestly there's no forcing us to publicize anything if we don't want to. And we go into this "retreat" in order to learn how to overcome problems, which we learn methods to rectify by looking at other threads of people who are more comfortable with sharing their stories and opinions. We are an inclusive community with boundaries set to prevent anyone from feeling uncomfortable. I truly respect your opinion, and this is mine. I think we're fine the way we are :)
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