THE DUELS OF NOFAP: NO PMO TOURNAMENT | OPEN FOR ALL

My dearest friend and co-fighter,
It's a great period for me. I haven't strong temptations and my will-power is very high... Although i have to admit that strong urges come and go... I think this is normal, i have almost 10 months without sex contact or even masturbation... The thing is urges doesn't make me think PMO. Urges do not involve masturbation, in my mind. Until recently, masturbation was a natural consequence of every urge... Strong desire to reach and feel orgasm. Now this circle has stop. I m feeling free from the shackles of desire... Although my guard has his eyes on.
Day 298!!!

 

Day 4
I’ve realised that I have stopped dreaming, so in order to rekindle that fire inside me, I’ve decided to dream bigger! Yes, I will aim for that college I always thought I wouldn’t get into, I will utilise this time even better, I will be motivated and try for a step greater than what I think I can achieve. I will do this, this is in my hands.
Peace!

 

Hi @Alex_Al ,
That is a great achievement brother. I am no where near to your streak.
You are having no sex, no masturbation, no porn for 10 months! I can see the confidence and happiness in your words.
I understand that after some period of no PMO, urges decreases.

But I wonder, You didn't have any O and wet dreams in these 10 months?

 

Day 11

 

Well to me this sentence overcome for importance the rest of the message

 

What is "Nofap defender" below you pic? Donated?

 

Congrats, that's a great step forward to a better and freer you!

 

Well, I fucked up twice yesterday since I started my day gaming too much and the urges eventually overwhelmed me. Never again, I'm returning to my normal schedule instead of doing stuff in a 'special' way since it's a weekend. However, I may had fucked up too much since I did nearly jackshit yesterday and now everything is piling up and I'm wondering how the fuck do I get everything done now.

 

Am I dreaming, or am I reading a wonderful 100 on your counter?
Congrats mylady, may the next 100 days even better than the previous ones

 

Your counter says day 0. I will allow myself to tell you this .

You are doing great. Really . You just overwhelming all the time .
Everything comes with time . Process .

You work a lot of hours on studies, on the piano, on the body .
You just got to have some sort of inner satisfaction. To say ''I did great'' and let it be .

Rest is where we grow, I learn it in such a hard way, I was close to getting insane, so believe me on that .

Being at peace grows you Physically, mentally, intellect wise . Pressure got to be fully controlled ..

You are getting in. In college, in life, in music, everywhere. You are on everything .

Much of these people, who they call ''successfull'' are late bloomers . They clever .

You will BLOW OUT then i will laught how you was stressing .

I see you great in a blink of an eye .

 

Thanks a lot man! Motivated me

 

Some insights on my recent relapse:
So, my teacher told me to relax in the evening,so I went to 9anime to watch some good anime movie. The thing is, these websites have at least 7-8 ads, which are basically porn,like straight out,not even a hint. Also,when you pause or rewind,the pop up is also porn. In the end, the movie I watched was really good,I thought I’d sleep, but then I’m like I’ve seen p a lot of nudity unwillingly, so this will count as a relapse, so why not relapse with like proper pmo? And just like that, I’m back on day zero!
Every single one of my relapses,is because of this:
1. I fell sick in July 2019,was watching endgame on this site,again porn ads,and boom 82 day streak gone!
2. I fell sick in October 2019,watched some good anime, again porn ads,but somehow I managed to control,cause I was close to 90 days.
3. Fell sick in feb 2020, watched some anime, porn ads messed my 33 day streak.
My other relapse which broke my 142 day streak was stupid,cause my hand just slipped inside when I was sleepy and back to day 0.
My 20 day streak recently broke cause I had too much free time.
I have to do something about this. Not watching anime is not an option,I watch it time to time,but can someone suggest a better site?
I could feel myself not being able to remember what I had worked upon,I felt the same before I joined this site. PMO will destroy me beyond what I can think.
No more talking,every day is a great achievement.
The thing is, I take my streaks for granted, cause I feel good only after I achieve certain number of days. No! This was not how I felt when I started putting up long streaks. I was happy for each day.
One thing I learned is that results take time. Wait for it,work for it,and maybe you’ll see sunshine!
Peace

 

Thank you @fg4795! Yes I hit the 100 day benchmark. I do not have any significant urges to watch P or fantasize these days, I feel more drawn inside, doing more meditation and journaling on intuition. I am still thinking about adjusting my goals and including jade egg practices in my routine. Or just keeping Kegels for the time being. Will see - not for the sake of M and stress release but for stronger relationship with my body, mainly trauma work. There will be no M as this keeps the trauma and these blocks stuck. Also, emotional eating gets stronger sometimes when I feel stressed, that's my greatest concern right now. Will continue zero alcohol, less caffeine habits and I will add to that early rise routine.

 

Why is it not an option? The majority of your relapses were bc of watching anime. I remember losing my 83 day streak bc of some innocent kissing scene in a movie, there was no intercourse even! After that I struggled with relapse after relapse so I quit watching movies and watched youtube videos on nofap instead (those made for women by women). Meditated more. You need to give your best one day at a time. If you cannot be your best, just tell yourself this is my best today, I will be a beast tomorrow, and drop inner criticism. Sometimes process is as important or even more important than the result as the process moulds you into a better, stronger version of yourself.

 

Day 12

 

Thank you my lady, always so kind... You are doing great also as i can see... So... Not just a lady but a strong lady, our lady! ;-)

 

My brother, by O what you mean exactly? I haven't any "pleasure" by sex and masturbation. About wet dreams i had a lot all this time. Sometimes i stopped it, sometimes i was late. I didn't count it as a relapse although. I think is inside the process of recovery. About "Defender" don't know. I have done a donation that's true but i m not sure if it's about it. I haven't any information.

 

Thanks a lot bro, i appreciate it more than you think. It's great to feel that someone else is also happy with your happiness, and this shows a person with character and a rich inner world. Proud to be around you...!

 

I agree with her my friend

When you want something you need to make a plan, and we you really want it, the plan can ask for many sacrifices, but it's good.
Ex nihilo nihil Latins used to said that means that "from nothing it comes nothing"
If you really need to stop it, there's nothing that can't be an option.
Everything can be.
Either you stop, either you find an alternative solution. But you find it, you just can't refuse to give on something.
If all the sites of streaming in the world are tricky, you will ask a friend to get the download for you, to watch only the anime. If even your friends will refuse, you will give up on anime.
If for you're not willing to do so, then you are doomed to fail again, I am sorry to be rude.
I, myself, found that alcohol was a strong trigger for me, being socially anxious I always find my braveness in the booze, getting drunk often and be "the party". But it was ruining my life, the day after I wasn't able to study, my blood exams were awful, and after I got drunk I used to relapse.
So? At the very young age of 23 I gave up on alcohol.
They made fun of me, calling me names I won't repeat.
Did I suffered? A lot.
My mind would have prefered to keep on drinking a bit to be cool with friends? Probably.
Did I found out knowing myself that I wasn't able to low the drinking without failing? Yes.
I found out it, so I simply quit alcohol, even if it is suffering.
You must ask yourself the same question
Where your weakness lie?
Are you able to control it?
If not, are you willing to renunce?

 

So I am not saying that you need to stop it, in anime itself there's nothing wrong, but if you understand that there's no way to avoid the relapse when you are dealing with anime, then you must accept that giving up anime is an option.