Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by HiddenWarrior, Apr 2, 2019.

Have you beaten your record or improved your average noPMO since joining this?

  1. Yes

    228 vote(s)
  2. No

    74 vote(s)

    MONSTER MONK Fapstronaut

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    Whaat? Have I ever been a jerk?
    Insight. Hmmmm.
    Ok. So Ive come to the conclusion that masturbation is a Learned Behaviour , not something that comes 'naturally' to us.
    And given enough time you can unlearn this behaviour.
    Close to the 1 year mark i was in bliss. Transcendant.
    No urges, no desire, no lust.
    Its Truly a spiritual experience, opportunity to connect to God while I was working on some goals.
    While I was absent from here I pondered and dealt with the problem of 'Love' or 'romantic love'. That was a tough one for me to crack. Just like We are fed Lust, the idea that PMO is natural, healthy, required. So to we are fed Love stories, the idea that you need a romantic partner to complete you, or that the purpose in life is to find your true love/soulmate or it is a goal that should be pursued as an end.
    Having realised its untruth I was truly free from lust and fake love.

    Fast forward to quite recently, I got exposed to some triggering content on Social media, plus slowly dropping prayers and sleep/wake habits, resulting in me being super horny.
    But I started craving for intimate sex and that alone. There was no desire for touching myself or watching Porn.
    So i find the Prognosis that sexual frustration requires you to masturbate in order to cool down to be FALSE. Since masturbation is only a behaviour you have learned in your early teens if you unlearn it, it may feel as unnatural as say, sucking your own dick. Which is weird. o_O
    There you have it. :D
    Stay Hard :cool:
  2. I hope I do better as well. The battle continues.
  3. That’s interesting. It also gives me hope that eventually I won’t have to worry about urges to PMO.
  4. David Goggins fan?
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  5. Pedro.Conquers

    Pedro.Conquers Fapstronaut

    Agreed. Not so much a monster now @MONSTER MONK
  6. Pedro.Conquers

    Pedro.Conquers Fapstronaut

    I love killing heros
  7. Pedro.Conquers

    Pedro.Conquers Fapstronaut

    In your opinion do you feel that we shouldn't have sexual partners at all? We shouldn't enjoy the company of the opposite sex? (Or same no judgments here)
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  8. @bellator de Christi Excuse me, but I cannot be so active here .
    I want to experience focus . @MONSTER MONK Thank you, by ''jerk" I mean different and not very clear what you mean at times .

    I will come as much as I can without ruining my focus .

    I feel bad for Saiyan coming tomorrow into seeing multiple zeroes .
  9. Pedro.Conquers

    Pedro.Conquers Fapstronaut

    Thats all we can do hope to do better. Being aware of old habits/emotions before reacting praying and meditating.

    I believe in emotional understanding and spirituality. I may only have like a day no PM but i have a two and a half years of sobriety.

    Understand your emotions before reacting is the key. For an example, “ i feel lonely, i feel bored, or i am sad right now.” Then ask yourself if PM will solve any of these emotions. You feel more (worse) of these emotions after PM, and will take you further from feeling better. You can learn to feel these emotions as no matter what if you don't react to them, you will live. So sit there and feel it and then remove it from your body; let it go.
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    MONSTER MONK Fapstronaut

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    What gave you that idea? Im a believer in the institution of marriage.
    What I say is that there shouldnt be a need to chase; chase sex, love, even happiness. Its all a process.

    MONSTER MONK Fapstronaut

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    Fret not O warrior. Wisdom is earned, not learned
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  12. That’s fine. I’ll just wait patiently. If this is what you need to keep focus, then do it.
  13. That will take some practice for me because I tend to hold on to emotion. Especially anger at injustice. Of course it’s healthy to feel angry at injustice, but I tend to hold onto it and let it build up inside me.
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  14. MixerAwersome

    MixerAwersome Fapstronaut

    I failed. @fg4795 you are the winner.
    Peeking is a disaster for me, I know it but the temptation led me to the Dump.
    Starting again ,
    Day 0.
    I'll need a new opponent as soon as possible @HiddenWarrior @Leader of ME
  15. Do not feel too bad my friend.
    Just few hours separeted us.
    I meant to stay away some days more. But I am back immediately after I had a relapse as well.
    So I am searching again for an opponent as well.
    I would love to update my counter but apparently I can't because of some database problem.
    But now is 0.
    Only few minutes passed to be sincere, but that's the only way I know.
    Accountability for my relapses. Not hiding behind the fact that I said that I was out.

    We discussed it many times in the past @Leader of ME
    But now I feel ready to tell you my friend.
    Once again, it was lust that tricked me. Despite that easiness with which I could have relapsed also to P. I didn't.
    I am still afraid to fall back. I am not done yet.
    But yes, I do not consider myself ADDICTED anymore.
    It took me 2 years in the forum + another one alone in the past.
    But now I see the light.

    So here I am, searching for an opponent.
  16. I experience the database too .
    Maybe forum is going down .
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  17. Now I’m worried because I thought it was just my internet or something. I couldn’t get into nofap for about 10 minutes because of the database problem.
  18. You waited long enough ?
    Hmm .

    I can come only in the duels and people's profiles .
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  19. To be honest , I feel better not seeing people daily updates but seeing only the thread .

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