Golden words! 100% truth! Target: healing after abusive relationship and creating a healthy relationship with myself first and foremost. Steps: conscious timeout for at least six months (or up to one year) without engaging in any potentially romantic interactions including texting, emailing, online dating sites, hookups, introductions by well-intentioned friends and family; inventory of my own dysfunctional patterns in past relationship(s); therapy; better self-care (sleep, nutrition, hydration, exercise, hobbies). This will take time but it's my most important target right now. Interested in hearing yours as well @Saiyan123 By the way, I would be honoured to duel with another woman here, if there are any female warriors available, let's go!