The end of failure!

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by SoMeOne00, Sep 29, 2020.

  1. SoMeOne00

    SoMeOne00 New Fapstronaut
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    Hey,
    I´ve tried quitting porn for almost 3 years now. There where some good times with good streakes but I never ever was a month clean. Last week my girlfriend (we where together for almost 1,5 years) broke up with me. I had the biggest relapse since I tried quitting porn. I feal like all my achivements are lost now. So I wanna go a new way and signed up here. I passively followed the subreddit for quite a time but now I wanna become active. I wanna share my achivements but also by relapses with you. I wanna exchange my experiences with you.
    My idea for this time: I tried it so many timesy that I had to figure out a new way of punishment when i relapse. I´m a student, and like almost every other student, I don´t have that much money to waste. I followed Alex`campagne and I really like the idea of NoFap. So I decided to spend 10€ every time I relapse watching porn. So that I have another motivation to not relapse and if I do so, I spent money for a good thing.
    I´m looking forward to a really good time with nice people here.
    Best wishes,
    xxx
     
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  2. Hey SoMeOne00,

    Really sorry to hear about the end of your long-time relationship... that must be incredibly hard, especially because she was the one who ended it. The achievements you had during the three years you've been working on quitting porn are surely not lost, though - you have good memories of your streaks, you know what it feels like to be in charge of your urges and your life, you know how you've coped with urges in the past, et cetera... So you have it within you, and that's great! Please don't be too hard on yourself right now, breakups really hurt... I think that this is a great time for you to stop that relapsing phase and gain some time and headspace to process your feelings about the relationship!

    I like your idea of what to do in case of a relapse - let's hope for your sake that Alex won't get too much money from you ;) (maybe you can still donate sometime when you've saved up tons of money by not relapsing).

    Wish you all the best!
     
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  3. SoMeOne00

    SoMeOne00 New Fapstronaut
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    Thank you for these wise words. And yes. You´re right. Not everything is lost. I have my expiriences, and now I can get a view on the expiriences of all the other strong fabstronauts. But at the moment I feel like at the beginning because I can´t even start a streak before I relapse. But I will stay strong, no matter what happens next. And I guess that´s what matter. Not building the best streak ever. No. It´s all about not giving up and stay strong to build your best streak and stay away from that got dam porns.
    With some help on reddit, I came up with an even better idea. I will put 1€ in a jar every day I stayed strong. From that money I can buy something I wouldn´t buy normally. But if I relapse ever again, I donate the whole jar.
    Thank´s. Stay strong and all the best on your ways,
    xxx
     
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  4. One Eyed Owl

    One Eyed Owl Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap!!!
     
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  5. Hey, I like that idea even better! That's really great because in addition to the "losing money when relapsing" part, more importantly, it also has a very rewarding component. And Alex still has a chance to get that cash :D

    I agree with you that the day by day counting system can sometimes be frustrating. You manage to pull yourself out of one urge and actually get yourself to do something healthy and lasting instead, that counts as a huge win for me already, no matter what else happens on that same day. Of course, there has to be some unifying metric for progress, and the day count is easily comparable... but yeah, I hope you will still find pride in every single earnest attempt you make to overcome your habits, no matter what else happens during that day :)
     

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