The experiment as a women/on the womens section

I think you're gonna confuse yourself even more.

Just look down and you can identify your gender in an instant.

Willy = boy.
Fanny = girl.

Ta-da. I just solved your mystery.

 

I don't get it.

 

I think this is a great idea. If you're not feeling completely meshed with the gender you're "supposed" to be, than exploring the other options will more than likely give some experience in what you really want. I do want to say, however, that doing this on the forums is a good START. Maybe trying something actively in person would be more beneficial to the process? Good luck!

I gotta straighten you out, bro. Sex and gender are different.

Sex = biological parts.
Gender = socially constructed roles, behaviors, activities, and attributes that a given society considers appropriate for men and women.

Genitalia determine what sex you are. What you wear, how you communicate with others, what things you like to do, etc. determines your gender. And that's just the simplified explanation. Our society likes to see gender as binary, or just male and female, when in reality its anything but that. People can have male genitalia but be feminine gendered. Or vice-versa. Or they can have no genitalia. Or they can have no interest in sex whatsoever. It's super complicated.

 

There is this tale of a family who own a small farm. All the family members work hard to make it work, tend to the cattle, work in the fields and so on. Now their oldest boy, around 15-16 decides that he is tired from all this work. He looks around and sees the family dog napping under the tree. So he decides that from that point on he will identify himself as a dog, because dogs don't have to work in the heat and can take naps.
So...did he actually became a dog? Nope, it doesn't work that way.

Just as choosing a gender doesn't work that way either. You can decide that you want to be a woman, you can cut your body up to look like a woman, you can learn how to act like a woman. Do you become a woman? Nope, you just learned new behaviors and altered your outlook.

Also there is this notion that if sex and gender doesn't seem to match, that it must be that the mind is correct and the body is wrong. On what basis...? What if the body is right, and the problem is in the mind? Like with an anorexic? Or with those people who wants to get rid of their limbs? Then every attempt to change the gender will result in more suffering. Much more than you already endured, that's for sure. You will no longer know who you are, or what you are, and without identity, you have nothing left. Might as well kill yourself. Which more probably happens to people with gender identity issues, such as transgendered or homosexual people. And it's not even about society, because the statistics are the same in the most liberal countries in the world.

Hmph if I'd decided to change my gender every time I failed as a man, I'd be the most girly girl right now. But this doesn't work like this.

 

Sounds like you need to talk to more girls.

 

So yeah.

Unless you don't actually have a willy (there may be some exceptions, but best you check with a doctor) then I'm pretty sure you're a dude.

Even dudes who do the surgery and the hormones are still dudes. Just really confused dudes.

 

It looks to me that we have some gender/sex ignorance going on here. But I have a feeling no amount of words are going to convince either of you anything. You're still too entrenched in the binary gender way of thinking. This topic is too controversial and has a high probability of turning into a flame war. @axy_david, you have my complete support in finding out who you really are. As for everyone else who still hold on to traditional ways of thinking about gender, I humbly but passionately disagree with you and that's all I have to say about that.

 

I think if you were transgender, you would know that from a young age because it's caused by a genetic mutation.

Sources: transgender friends

 

I would say, let us talk. Or at least really talk to some people (family, friends, doctors) if you actually think about changing your gender. In which areas do you not identify with men, and why don´t you? Keep in mind that men come in very different shapes and sizes and with very different behavior. Are you sure can´t identify with any of them?

 

It would be cool to see how you are treated by men. See how it feels to be objectified. It must be like being hunted or something.

 

don't let yourself be treated badly and think you deserve it remember if someone tells you what to do or wants something from you then get worried and back off!

 

if men treat you like an object don't have anything to do with them like back off. It is hard to see this sometimes as we want to please people. If someone wants something from you or tells you what to do then get worried cause you are being manipulated for their benefit. I have been treated like this for years by my family cause I am the youngest and would just do what they say so they would be happy with me. This has kept the peace but not helped me grow.