The Fantasizing problem

Hi,

I'm in my 15 day of reboot. We are planning and hence we would have to have intercourse for atleast 10 times a month. I have seen in the YBOP site, that during reboot it is better not to fantasize, but due to my ED I have always fatnazised for the past 2 and a half years.

If I have to abstain from PMO, I have the confidence that I can not masturbate for more than a year if needed as I have gained experience trying to reboot for the past 1 year and the max I have gone without PM is 46 days and without PMO for 28 days.

But while having sex, due to the coolidge effect and other complications, Im not able to climax without the help of fantasizing. Can go on only once or twice without fantasize and moreover, the brain being tempted constantly during a reboot, wants to have hands on the slightest thought of having a go at the imaginary woman.

I feel it nearly impossible to go on for 10 times a month without fantazising. Actually Im very much looking forward to reboot after 18 years of fapping but bcos we have been planning for abt 3 years now, cant abstain from intercourse as well. In the past year, I have almost always relapsed only due to the chaser effect.

Any bright ideas as to how I can deal with this situation?

 

Thank you for your reply. I think meditation will definitely be helpful in the long run to overcome ED. But I found the immediate solution to my problem in this link. http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=2416.0

No fantasizing even during sex.

"You should be deriving physical pleasure from the act itself, and your response (eventual ejaculation) should be the result of a physical stimulus, and not your brain slipping back into the crack of your addiction."

Hope it is of some help to others with similar problems.