The first steps of my journey

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by IveGotSomeEdge, Nov 29, 2018.

  1. IveGotSomeEdge

    IveGotSomeEdge New Fapstronaut

    Hello everyone. I´ve read about NoFap for quite a while now, but I´ve never visited the forums and read directly from the community. Today I checked it out and decided to join. Seems that writing about my progress might help me overcome this. I want to share my experience.

    I´m 19 years old. I haven´t had sex yet. And most likely will have to wait a bit more. Masturbation has been something normal in my life. I used to do it about three or four times a week. 95% of the time while watching porn. The other 5% was with some other Porn substitute kind of content like pictures and videos of hot women. Maybe I did it once or twice actually using my imagination. And I usually didn´t last more than 5 minutes without stopping, waiting for me to relax and then get on it again for another 5 minutes and so on until I wanted to orgasm. I was in a relationship where I wouldn´t be able to have sexual intercourse. So porn was my only way out whenever I got turned on by my girlfriend.

    At some point in my life, I started to feel really emotionally numb. Things that used to make me very happy and hyped up, dind´t anymore. It had been a while since I showed any true excitement. I thought I was able to have these feelings, I could laugh or be in a happy mood, but I was never able to feel it inside me. Like, physically feel the emotion, like most of the people around me do. About two or three months ago I started reading about what this problem is, what could´ve caused it, and how I could cure it. Soon enough, I learned about NoFap, and its benefits. I learned about a guy that felt exactly like I did. And his solution was NoFap. I then I realized that I had a problem.

    My emotional numbness, lack of energy, lack of motivation, feeling pretty down and low constantly, my social anxiety and more; could be related to my masturbation habits.

    I´ve been doing the challenge (or lifestyle as some may call it) for about two months. On hardmode, obviously, since I have anyone to hace sex with and I´m not really good with women. So I pretty much dont have a choice. It´s been hard. I´ve relapsed a couple of times. I convinced myself that I didnt have a problem, and that I could do it and quit whenever I wanted, but I wasnt able to prove it to myself.

    Now I´m on a 12 day streak (I´ve honestly lost count, but Im pretty sure about the date I last did it). It´s been hard. It´s been twice now that I have the urges to feel an orgams. Doing research. Looking for a credible source that says masturbating (at least using your mind) once in a while is okay. I tell myself the fact that I´ve been feeling way better each week even when relapsing, but I´m not sure if it is actually okay, or I´m just looking for an excuse. And that if I keep going, I´ll be better that ever. But there´s a little voice inside my head that is telling me that if I relapse, I´m gonna regret it tomorrow.

    I think I just wanted to let that out. Thank you for reading. Any comment advice or opinion is apreciated. I´m just a fellow man with an issue you might relate to.
    Do you think I should keep going? (My goal is a month, then 3 months and so on depending on the results) Is it okay if I masturbate but without porn once in a while? Do you think I should masturbate If i really really want to? Is it no big deal? Or would I start feeling like crap again if I do? Tell me what you think.
    Thank you
  2. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

    Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

    Honestly, it's awkward for me to answer your questions, because: it's not about what *I* want; it's about what *you* want. Think about it: are you really meaning to give me the power to decide what is best for you? If so, then of course, *I* think that you should give up porn and masturbation forever, and seek a relationship leading to marriage, and have sex only in marriage. I have good reasons for thinking these things and I will gladly explain them. But why do you want me to make those decisions for you?

    Instead of asking me, do I -- Septimus -- think you should keep going, ask yourself: do YOU think you should keep going? Why? Only you can decide what these things matter to you. Only you know what you will feel when you masturbate again. How can I know?

    See what I mean?

    I hope you keep coming back, and if I can help, let me know.

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