The Great Escape

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Dnkzeen, Jun 11, 2018.

  1. Dnkzeen

    Dnkzeen Fapstronaut

    Apologies for my over dramatic title lol,

    so where do I start??? So I'm now 23, a bit young but old enough to be conscious of my addiction which is taking me day by day. Long story short, I work, attend uni part-time and recently had a son who I must say will be more of an individual talent than Messi one day . All jokes aside thought I have a massive sex addiction from which we all know I'm unable to disclose to my partner or my family who mostly live abroad because of the dire repercussion to come with my confession. No hear what! Everyone has an addiction right, but I have seen to gotten bored of porn and am now turning to escorts. This started since December when the imminent birth of my son and also the massive pressure of work along with high expectations of life was absolutely stressing me out. It started with an outcall and that was it. I have successfully blown my bank account and currentoc I'm on my face. I promise I would stop but as so many of you may be familiar with it's easier said than done. I have disclosed my pains to some friends who find it hard to believe.

    At this point I know all things must come to light but I'm turning to this forum to help me catch myself. Any suggestions?
  2. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
  3. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

    Welcome! I'm glad you're here. Keep coming back!
  4. Dnkzeen

    Dnkzeen Fapstronaut

    Thanks all for the support, since my last post I keep doing the same things but I'm optimistic it will change. The thing is I feel the strong urges leaving. Atleast I think so, I hope it's not denial anyway. Hey can you guys share some of your experiences with escorts and how did you overcome it?

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