The idea of abstinence till marriage makes me feel like I can't defeat PMO. Does anyone feel same?

I'm sorry, I may not have been clear in my advice. I'm not advocating to have sex before marriage if saving yourself for marriage is part of your belief system. I would never counsel a man of faith to go opposite of his convictions, and I apologize if that's what you took away from it. That was not at all my intent.

The teaching I grew up with is that if you stay pure till marriage, you will enjoy incredible sex with your wife. For me, saving myself for marriage did not bring me those rewards but that's not because it was the wrong thing to do. The wrong thing was to be PMOing all those years before I got married, when I should have been pure and strong and putting myself out there with women in real life. I am still haunted by the faces and names of women I may very well have had a chance with but never took the first step, choosing instead to satisfy myself to porn. Even if none of those women wound up as my girlfriends I would have at least expanded my world and improved my social skills by interacting with them. If I had done my bachelor years right then yeah, my married sex life would probably have been as good as the people who teach you to wait, claim it will be.

In other words, don't give up your convictions. Give up PMO. The sooner that happens the sooner a woman is likely to come into your life who you can marry and enjoy, while you're still in your best years for sex.

 

There are two extremes you want to avoid.
1) Having a lot of sex with many different partners which just creates a broken human being.
2) What you went through. PMOing thinking you were virtuous for not having sex

The ideal is to avoid PMO and sex before marriage if we are going to be honest. That would be wonderful

 

your dick is a reproduction organ, other than that you are tricked by brain.
i do feel sorry too

 

This stupid idea is made exaclty for that. Hold you down.

Go out there and enjoy some healty sex.

 

I freakin' LOVE everything that EmmyB has to say!

 

Nah