The importance of NOT making Nofap your whole life!

Learn the rules and keep it simple?
I thought the rules were to give up PMO for good, so really its a life long thing.
Because whats the point of 90 days NoFap and then restarting?
Thats basically what you are saying by implying it should not be apart of your whole life.

PMO is an addiction - which needs to be broken and taken seriously.
To me it sounds like you are not serious about no PMO or are not actually feeling some of the severe side affects it causes.

 

I fear that I will loose interest in Nofap soon. I want to help others like me and want to read success stories. Porn may not affected your life but it sucked all my life out of me. Read some successful stories you will see how some poeple are affected by it both mentally and physically.

I can see your point that we shouldnt get addicted to nofap. I can't understand why people will addicted to it and also whats wrong in it. I will be happy that i could make a single difference in someones life. I am a new person now. Nofap is like a journal to me. It helps me in many ways. Sorry to say this buddy but you should keep your own views with you if it is no use to anyone.

 

I dont understand how you are saying NoFap should not be a life long thing, so should I go 90 days and relapse and repeat the cycle of PMO?
If NoFap is not forever apart of your life then you will relapse.
Once you have cured, rewired or reached a goal during your journey you keep going strong. (continuing no PMO)
Im not obsessed with no PMO but I take it seriously.

In short I am trying to explain to you that No PMO/ NoFap IS a lifelong thing I'm not sure how you didn't understand that.

 

What is soo addiction about NoFap. It's helping the person to stop addiction and helping others. Are you addicted to nofap?. I like to know why some people addicted to it. It's not a simple masterbation buddy. Have you read any success stories. People come here not to time pass. Read thishttp://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/33-reasons-to-quit-masturbating-and-watching-porn.33971/

 

I think that there are only few people who are obsessed about this and they can easily change. But there are more people who giveup and live in addiction guilt resentment etc.., you stop validating your point because its not going to help anyone. Yes it is not helping anyone and people come here to get help and help others

 

Me talking about going 90 days and relapsing was an example made by me from you stating that NoFap should not be apart of our whole lives.
You are saying NoFap should not be apart of our whole lives and I don't understand that logic.

 

Yes. you just wanted to say what you want.

 

I think you guys are somewhat confused on what Pureheart was trying to say. What he was trying to say is that you should being doing stuff in your life, not focusing all the time on Nofap. It helps if you find things to do in life to keep you busy. You want to keep your mind off PMO as much as possible. The whole purpose of Nofap is to understand that your life is not just about PMO. You should not be thinking about it all day, you should be spending your time doing positive and proactive things. He's not telling you that you shouldn't do it for life, he's telling you that you need to do stuff in your life besides this. If you treat PMO as a huge problem in your life, it will remain a huge problem in your life. You have to make it seem small. Don't make your day solely about abstaining, fill it with positive stuff that you want to do.

 

@Pureheart. You seem to have misunderstood what NoFap is about and what the NoFap challenge actually means. You are WRONG that NoFap is - is doing NOTHING! Rather, the four bullet points are not about doing NOTHING - as the words on the site's home page, which I have underlined. clearly show: http://www.nofap.com

Get a new grip on life.

NoFap® hosts challenges in which participants abstain from porn and masturbation. Seize control of your sexuality and turn it into superpowers.​

• Recover from porn-induced sexual dysfunction.
• Stop objectifying and establish meaningful connections.
• Improve your interpersonal relationships.
• Live a more fulfilling life.

 

Yes it could help some people to stop spending their time in nofap if it is acting like a trigger for PMO or after they are completely broke the addiction. Many peope uses nofap like a tool to get help and help others but obsessive over anything is wrong but its not as worse than people who are affected badly due to PMO . Also addiction could return at anytime.

I am not a nofap addict but if I become a addict which I think is not going to happen I will be proud and happy to be addicted to it then addicted to PMO which riuned my life and made me hate myself

 

Hey dude I get what you're trying to say. But for some people, its about stopping the moving wheel that is PMO. And while youre stopping the momentum of the wheel that spinning quickly, it requires a lot of energy to halt. Some people have to dedicate a lot of thier time trying to stop the wheel before they can integrate a new wheel a new routine into their lives; this takes up a lot of energy and patience.

Because not everyone knows what they want to to! For me i'm taking it a bit slowly, I'm adding a few new routines into my day and trying to stay strong mentally and its very draining! So i'm not motivated to pick up more activities just yet. But I need to realise cognitively how i'm using my time, the answers will take time to figure out.
I've been at NoFap for the past year and its something for me personally that will change the very core of my personality so I do have to implicitly give it a lot of my energy.

This process is subjective from person to person there's no one right way. But I really highly apprecaite what you're trying to say; to not let it dominate your life. But the same example can be applied to smokers/ heroin addicts; its a few minutes everyday but changes your life. Withdrawals makes it dominate your life and some people cant control how they feel like myself!

 

Basically NoFap will be your life, until you move on gradually, until you stop focussing on it and then you realise you dont watch porn or even think about NoFap anymore! I went through that phase last year and still kinda am affected, but much less so. I'll watch a No pmo youtube video once a few days to keep me thinking about it

 

@Pureheart Thank you and well said, you've given me something important to think about

 

I don't think that's what he's saying. The point is not to let the NoFap become an obsession so that it takes over your life. NoFap on its own won't fix you, it just has to be part of the process of living a better life.

Don't let NoFap define your life is what he's saying, it should be part of it but it isn't everything.

 

Do you think we don't know that?