The Incest Addiction

this place is a challenge thread but whatever, so for me, when fantasize comes, I imagine myself an stop sign, symbol, but try meditation , or guided, it will help you, to balance your thoughts

 

Coolidge affect —as you become desensitized to “normal” porn, your brain needs more novelty to get off. Some people look at more hardcore, some bdsm, some incest, etc.

 

Well, you could take a psychoanalytic approach to these questions. That would mean to look deeply into your childhood, your family and relationships.
The problem that I see with the psychoanalytic approach is that it may create complexes that weren't existing before or only very subtle. And of course you most likely need professionals for that.

But why do we think 'what is wrong with me?' when we are turned on by incest porn or "thoughts with fictitious family members" in the first place? At least from my point of view there's alrady so much wrong with the use of porn by the average Joe. Or at least the "average fapper" lol

I don't know you AnonGuy, but you may just be like me: you watch a lot of porn then it takes you to the extreme and fetish porn and then you have this inner struggle. 'This is wrong' 'This is sick' 'I mustn't do this.' 'I should not cross this line' 'What is wrong with me?' - this is of course your conscience and your education speaking. But what do we do when we're pumped with dopamine? We cross line, we say 'fuck it' to ourselves or we don't think at all and just give ourselves what we urge for.

When I was young I watched a lot of violent movies and sometimes horror movies. For us boys it was like a sport: the more horror and gore you see the more you can stand. It was pretty stupid from today's perspective
But I don't think it was only bad. Because I learned things.
I think there are two important factors here. 1) learning 2. changing (by learning). Learning is a good thing in my opinion. But we also change. Although we can differ between reality and fiction (also a thing that we learn) everything we do has an impact on us. When we watch a lot of porn we change.
What you do and what you learn forms you. But it is also possible to change the meaning of past experiences. And I find that extraodinary! That we humans can do that from time to time: (re)define WHAT our experiences / our form means.
For example after years of addiction you can face the reality and then you can give it a (different) meaning. For example you can use your knowledge and experiences concerning this matter to help yourself AND to help others.

Don't put yourself down. Recovery will make you understand. But as long as you watch this porn it doesn't help when you analyze it. Instead focus on your potential on what you REALLY want, on your goals and replace bad habits with good habits.

I hope this was helpful. Good luck on your journey!

 

And I know a practical way to deal with your issue: (re)define your boundaries
Here's the link: The Role of Boundaries
by Jon Marsh
It's part of a profound Workshop on Recovery Nation