'The Internet is for porn'

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by help43, Mar 2, 2020.

  1. help43

    help43 New Fapstronaut

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    First of all, sorry if my English is a bit dull, I'm not a native speaker
    I've been trying to quit countless times, installed phone apps that lock me out, installed Cold Turkey on my computer, disabled the access to the add-ons page for my browser (I'm using Firefox) and the option to start it without add-ons so I don't disable the porn filters, blocked lots of websites that wouldn't normally be used for watching porn (like torrent sites for example) but it seems like it always finds a way on my screen and I was really wondering if anyone else has this... I don't even know how to call it (impulse maybe???) that just makes me type keywords in the address bar and sometimes I seem to stumble upon actual websites and, from that moment on, my brain just shuts down and I either edge for hours on end without O-ing or I edge until I reach the point of no return
    So I was wondering:Is there any unbeatable 'filter' or 'blocker' that blocks ONLY pornography, because I used a DNS called FortiClient before but it seems that besides denying access to porn it also filters websites that I could normally use
    PS I live in a kind of difficult financial situation in a poor country, so I can't really afford those 'child protection' apps that cost money
     
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  2. untunedguitar

    untunedguitar Fapstronaut

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    We all know how the internet is, there are potential triggers everywhere... But even with every filter possible, in the end you are still in charge of how you use your internet. Instead of having a blocker and not see something because you simply 'wouldn't be able to', it is so much better (even if harder, yes) to have none but discipline yourself to be aware when those situations occur, then you will learn to control and master yourself and avoid falling back again.

    Just don't let 'your brain shut down'. When you see yourself reaching down there, stop it, close whatever you were looking at, stand up, walk around and think about it. It is crucial that you don't allow yourself to start, because then it really is pretty much impossible to stop.

    Have a strong purpose to motivate why you are quitting, and remind yourself all you would lose if you relapse. If you don't have a clear goal in mind for nofap, it will not work.
     
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  3. juniormelville

    juniormelville Fapstronaut

    Stay away from the computer. Don't use your computer for entertainment at all. Stay out of that room. Have scheduled activities that you can't drop out of. I get up early so I will fall asleep earlier. I go to the gym after work with my friend so I can't be lazy and drop out. After work, gym, cooking, eating and washing up, I'm pretty much ready for sleep. I don't have any time to fill with computer entertainment (except this forum!).
     
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  4. hubbawulf1234

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    Yes I too experience this. I call it compulsion. I'll open an incognito tab and before I know it a google search is pulled up. Benjamin Franklin once said it's easier to never start a habit than to quit one. And this is true. The minute I allow myself into the compulsion, I'll spend all day opening and closing that browser. Not to mo, but just to skirt. To see what I can see before forcing myself to close out. Then 5 minutes later I have it open again. I'll waste a full day doing that.
     
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  5. CodeTalker

    CodeTalker Fapstronaut

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    I tried almost everything and none are working 100%. If I’m horny and determined, I will find a way.
     
  6. diep

    diep Fapstronaut

    Why don't you use ColdTurkey to block all websites except Google Safe Search and some of safe websites you know you can't relapse on it? There is no way around it. Block your way to uninstall Cold Turkey as well.
     
  7. CodeTalker

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    Oh yeah there is a way around. There is always a way. Sadly I know too much about computers overall. I don’t say that to boast, my life would be easier on that part if I didn’t know all I know.
     
  8. mcp19

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    The internet isn't the problem, because even if you had no access to internet you will still have these thoughts about sex. If you block something, your mind remembers that you blocked something. You need to focus on other things so this way you will give less attention to porn
     
  9. CodeTalker

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    i never used this software before. I just installed it, trial version pro, blocking all website except one and settings are password protected. It took me less than a minute to find a bypass.
    I could still access every websites and see pictures no problems.
     
  10. henryhill

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    Yup I gave up on blockers years ago. They’re too easy to get through and I just settled for psubs anyway.

    I can echo that what’s been said that it’s is better to use a different tool. I recommend meeting with people in person, even going to a 12 step group where you can get a face to face accountability partner.

    You could also try reframing porn in your mind. If you treat it like it’s junk food for your brain you may find it easier to resist when one of the first things that comes to mind is that it’s not good for your brain. At least I found this has helped me.

    Also others have mentioned spending your time away from a computer. I think this is great advice. Fill your life with other things. And any time the urge comes to you when you’re out make sure you push it away and really try and be present.

    Living in the moment is key! Not in the sense of doing whatever feels good in the moment, but rather don’t
    Be on autopilot! You need to learn how to enjoy every moment and be aware of every moment.
     
  11. diep

    diep Fapstronaut

    I agree that there is always a bypass out there. But if you do really wants to block yourself out of porn, there are still ways to mitigate the chance to bypass the filter.

    For example, here is my setup on my Android phone.
    - Non-rooted Samsung galaxy phone.
    - SPIN browser
    - AppBlock Strict Mode to disable access to Settings (no uninstall), Play Store (no install)
    - Remove all other browsers
    - Cleanbrowsing DNS
    - Use an openwrt router to block all unsafe search engine (Bing, Yandex, Duckduckgo, etc.), leaves only Google Safe Search for the whole network

    It is rock solid and I haven't found a way around it. But the most important thing is you have to find the good replacement for porn. For me, it is Jesus. I have found peace with myself when I repented.
     
  12. CodeTalker

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    i tried every possible blocking and none work flawlessly. If one device is pretty secure, there is always that other device that can be used. But I know I won’t beat this with blockers, I will beat this with Jesus.
    I use some blockers these day that I know I can bypass (whitelist parental lock on iPad, pluck eye+hosts file+dns server on windows) but it’s just to give me that extra minutes to think again.
     
  13. diep

    diep Fapstronaut

    Stay strong, bro. Pray to God when the urge comes. It helps me a lot. God will help you :)
     
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  14. CodeTalker

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    My biggest struggle aren’t urges actually, it’s to avoid getting caught in the same pattern.
    It’s like I’m watching porn every time I’m bored and on auto pilot.
     
  15. diep

    diep Fapstronaut

    I see. You have to had a plan of what you are going to do when you are bored and follow it carefully. I personally like to listen to my favorite sermons when I anticipate that relapse will happen soon. Words of God is powerful.

    You can write down the details of how relapse happens. It will help with preparing a good plan to deal with it in the future.
     
  16. gordie

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    I realize I've started over but this seems like, unfortunately, one of the things you will have to "get over." I will, however, recommend getting off instagram and the above poster who says "stop using the computer for entertainment." Read, go to the gym, call up friends and go out, etc. At least try to maximize how little you spend on it.

    If it gives you hope, I went around a year without porn once and I remember very clearly I was sitting in a doctors office. I realized I had all these safari or chrome windows open on my phone and began to close them. one was a very graphic, sleek porn advertisement with people engaged in a sex act-- not like the camgirl ones but it was exactly like the kind of porn I used to look at. It didn't affect me at all, I simply closed the window. I noted how little mattered because it didn't even register as a trigger, and I remember thinking how cool that was.
     
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